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Your One and Only Life to Live


Chapter 1
Does God Really Exist?
“… belief in God is a choice.’’
(Daily Encounter @  www.actsweb.org  March. 5, 2012)


During the course of a workshop, I attended preparatory to the writing of my project for the Chattered Institute of Personnel Management of Nigeria, the very first and most fundamental question that our then Guest Lecturer, posed to our class was:  ‘Does God exist?’.
Our chorused answer was overwhelmingly ‘Yes’.  That we answered in the affirmative was understandable – majority of participants were either Christians or Muslims.  
To convince our lecturer that we understood what we were saying, we justified our answers by citing many visible and wondrous things God had done in our lives and practically all the works of creation which can only be accomplished by a God.
At the end of our assertions, he simply concluded that, our experiences notwithstanding, it is a matter of opinion because God cannot be subjected to a scientific proof.  Even though we held on to our views, we could not but agree with our Professor that it is truly a matter of opinion!
However, even though, we cannot prove God’s existence using empirical science, take it or leave it, He exists.  Indeed He will not be God if we are able to subject Him to scientific proof using man-made instruments.   The Almighty God is bigger than ALL scientific or natural laws because He made the laws to which we want to subject His existence.  This accounts for why He alone can reverse the operations of the laws themselves – meaning He alone can reverse the irreversible.  So in your own interest, dear readers of this book, we must draw the curtain on any form of (blind) argument and accept His existence by faith.
Chapter 2
The Bible
 Only fools say in their hearts,
“There is no God.”  Ps. 53:1

We can now safely begin where we should begin – The Holy Bible.  If we begin from any other premise, all we will say in this book will amount to nothing but what William Shakespeare in his drama book “Macbeth” (Act.5, Scene 5) tagged “a story told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing”.  
What does the Bible say about God’s existence?  In the book of Psalm 53:1 says, “The fool says in his heart that there’s no God”.   Furthermore, Prov.1:7 says, “Fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom but fools despise it...”
We are depending upon the Bible which is the Word of God, because it is the foundation of all knowledge, wisdom and understanding Prov. 2:6, 9:10)!  It predates all other books in this world.  It is the most authoritative of all books ever written and all other good books draw their foundation from it.  Therefore, the Holy Bible is the word of God. It is the most unquestionable, most authoritative and most dependable book of precedents that has ever been and will ever be written!  So please base your belief in the existence of God on it.  Read it, meditate upon it and begin from now to endeavor to do according to all its provisions.  Josh. 1:8-10.
   


Chapter 2
Must I Know Him?

The Story of Five Dreamers
This is a true life story of five friends, four boys, one girl. They came from three different ethnic groups in different geographical areas of an African country.  They started their struggles together in a popular city in Africa. They all had a dream of a great future and they were prepared to do all they could to attain that which they desired.
Out of the five, only one came from a fairly wealthy background and was fortunate to read up to a Secondary School education.  The rest were born without silver spoons in their mouths.  They had only primary school certificate. The five of them met at a local study centre.
Two of them were born-again Christians. The five of them were academically brilliant and diligent.  The connecting point for them all was their expectations of a blissful old age – to retire from work happy, become wealthy and have all their desires in life fulfilled  These were mere dreams towards which they channeled their efforts to attain but alas, the outcome was far below their expectations as only one of them managed to achieve a modest taste of blissfulness at the end of his career!
 However, not quite long, they all passed their examinations and were able to gain employment in good organisations where they were well paid and were doing well in life.   Soon, they got married and had children.  Out of the five, two continued to improve themselves academically and professionally even as they continued to work and catered for their families.  The rest of them were not so academically inclined but they were business-minded. However they lacked financial capital to establish businesses of their own so early in life.  
A review of their lives after 30 working years, revealed that the three of them   had lost their jobs due to the challenges their various organizations were facing.  Amongst this three was the one that was highly enterprising but lacked the skills and exposures required to properly manage his dream ventures.  He however invested the little he had and was able to manage a small business that kept him busy.  The fourth one who was a born again and highly religious but unserious about improving his academic and professional skills  also lost his job but was able to secure another one but in lower capacity and with almost zero potential to grow.
So among the five friends who started the race of life together hoping for good success, only one, through hard work and faith in God realize a significant part of their dreams.
This is to say that it is not by power, not by might but by the combination of the spirit (faith in God), with hard work that people succeed in life.  Success is therefore attained by grace for the book Rom. 12:11 says “Never be lazy but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically” (NLT).  Secondly, it is instructive to note that our lives are in our own hands to shape them the way we wish them to be. But it must be done with the fear of the Lord. Psalm. 119:109 has says, ‘My life is constantly hangs in the balance but  I will not stop obeying Your instructions’.  This means that unless we know God and depend upon Him we may end up gaining nothing from all our labours!  Therefore we should not be ‘slothful in business, but fervent in prayers to God’.
The above real-live story answers the question ‘Must I Know Him?’ in the affirmative.   Anyone who does not know Him, is in utter darkness and it is not good for them to remain there for the rest of their lives. (Please if you don’t know Him yet, take the most important decision of your life today by knowing Him. Only He can shed light into and make your life meaningful.
Secondly, if we do not know Him, we will depend upon our own wisdom.  Of course, human wisdom is foolishness before God (Prov.1:7)                             and with only one mistake on his part, a fool is                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           swept off his feet!  Therefore, only God is wise and only He can guide everything about us.  

Thirdly, whether we believe it or not, there’s a life after life for John 14:2  , says, “In my Father’s house are many mansions: if it were  not so, I would have told you.  I go to prepare a place for you.”   So there’s a place in heaven already prepared for you and me by Jesus Christ where we are expected to spend your eternity.  I am sure you won’t want to miss it.  I don’t want to miss it too.  If we do, there’s an alternative place made ready as well  by Satan our arch enemy whose main purposes are to “steal, kill and destroy” (John 10:10) those who fall his prey. (John 10:10)  That place is called ‘hell’.  We will not fall his prey in the mighty name of Jesus.  

God may spare your life to spend up to 150 years in this world.  If He does, you good luck to you but I am sure you won’t like it because I am sure you would want your children to bury you and therefore would like to go much much earlier.  But the reality is this, 150years on earth compared to eternity in heaven or hell cannot be placed on the same scale.  150 years will be insignificant to eternity.  Therefore no matter how long you live in this world, compared to eternity, it will be short. Consider where you will spend your eternity and the only one recommendation I have for you is to choose to spend it in heaven with your Creator.  So it is essential that you know Him.
 Chapter 3
What are My Benefits
if I know Him?
‘Good’ luck is an opportunity met with preparation’
Pastor Sam Adeyemi
First, we need to realise that life has no meaning by itself.  All our labours are vanity. When we come to this world, all we engage in are the pursuit of education, career (to acquire, material things and to feed, clothe build houses, buy cars, etc).
We also engage ourselves dutifully in socials such as, marriage ceremonies, birthday celebrations funerals, clubbing activities etc).  And at the end of the whole exercise, we die and our children take over the same cycle!  There’s nothing wrong with all these but they all end up in vanity! Nobody will do these things more than King Solomon did.   But he summed them all up as “vanity” which truly they are.  Please take time out to read the entire book of Ecclesiastes.   But one thing is needful: fear the Lord with whom we will spend our eternity!
All other things are temporal and ordinary. The real purposes of God for our lives are: to glorify Him, be of good service to fellow humanity and to spend eternity with Him in heaven.
No one of these is mutually exclusive of one another. If you miss one, you miss all. For instance, we can’t glorify the name of the God we don’t recognise.   Our good services to humanity alone will not take us to heaven.  Neither will our dutiful fellowship and spiritual fervency combined with your good works alone take us there.  Rather, all of us need the ‘grace’ of God to make it.  This is because, according to Rom 3:23, “all have sinned and have come short of the glory of God”.   What is grace?  It is an unmerited favour – receiving freely, what we cannot lay claim upon by right.  For instance, Virgin Mary, the mother of Jesus Christ was not chosen simply because she was a virgin. No, virginity is only but a plus to God’s grace upon her life.   Virginity translated to the fact that she feared God by ensuring that she kept herself undefiled, therefore she was prepared for the grace that was billed to come upon her life.  So amongst the virgins of her time, God decided to apply His grace to choose her to be the mother of our Saviour.  Rahab, the harlot who saved the Israelites from impeding destruction received her own grace (or favour) likewise because she feared God by keeping His children safe.   Through that, she got saved.   So like these women, we too need to be prepared to receive God’s grace by not only recognising God but by fearing and serving Him.  These are what we need to do to make heaven.  I pray for you that you and I will not miss heaven in Jesus name. Amen
 
Chapter 4
Which Way To Him
Amidst these Multitude of Religions?

Religious Confusions
The subject and avenue through which man can express his belief in God and serve Him is called Religion. Reasonably, one would expect that there will be a single universally accepted religion through which we can all express our relationship with Him.  Unfortunately, this is not so.  There are just too many of them, all claiming superiority and originality or worse still acceptability by God.  So the basic principle that has sprung up from this is ‘Take ours only and make it to heaven’ or ‘Take ours and end up in hell’. And there’re aggressive marketing strategies all everywhere!
These religions spring up according to how their founders convictions or were called.  So rather than help, they end up confusing us.  As a result, three things happen to a religious-innocent soul: some people give up the idea of serving God altogether and tagged themselves ‘the free-thinkers’. Some settle down for only one of the religions not because they were sure of its rightness while others decided to combine some of the religions together thereby not belonging exclusively to one.
One of the reasons you may have been sceptical about serving God up till now can be because you are confused.  This book is out to make the issue of religion very plain to you so that you will be serving God out of conviction not out of guess work.
We are out to show you why out of the many religions we have, only one, not even two or more can lead you to heaven.  You want to know which one?  Please, do exercise some patience.  We will tell you will full explanations as to how we arrived at our conclusion, using this writer’s research work as a basis.
You are free to carry out your own research, but without bias.  Also if you are so rigid and want to defend the original religious setting into which you were born to with the whole of your might, you may miss the point.  So we will advise you to be open minded when carrying out such research so as to arrive at something that will fetch you salvation.
You should honour and respect your parents but your allegiance should belong to God who is greater than them.  You are also accountable to God, not to your parents for your decision.
It is suffice to say at this juncture to admit that there is a gross proliferation of religions.  There are myriads of them world-wide but only one (we’ll soon let you know) will lead you to heaven.  But we must add that even the only one also have many fake versions.  What happened is that many of these fakes do whatever aspect of the doctrines that suit their purposes and establish worship centres around them.  For instance, whether you belong to Islamic faith or Christianity, there are some basic doctrines that both religions hold to be true.
Let’s quickly consider two of such i.e. marriage and alcohol.   Both religions hold that their adherents should abstain from polygamy Matt. 19:5 says, “for this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife and they twain shall be one flesh”.  Let our brethren in Islam who openly profess that Islamic faith permits more than one wife go back and study the Quran and the Haddith very well they will discover that they are wrong.  I was privileged to offer Islamic studies at the University where my erudite Islamic Lecturer Professor, Iysa Bello, laid bare to me (and I strongly believe him) the true doctrines or tenets of Islam.
On alcohol the Bible is very clear in Prov. 23:29-35 which say, “Who has woe? Who hath sorrow? Who hath contentions? Who hath babbling?, who hath wounds without cause? Who hath redness of eyes?  They that tarry long at the wine; they that go seek mixed wine. Look thou upon the wine, when it is red, when it giveth his colour in the cup, when it moveth itself aright.  At the last it biteth like a serpent, and stingeth like an adder.   Thine eyes, shall behold strange women, and thine heart shall utter perverse things.  Yea, though shall be as he that lieth down in the midst of the sea, or as he that lieth upon the top of a mast.  They have stricken me, shall thou say, and I was not sick; they have beaten me, and I felt it not: when I shall awake I will seek it yet again.”
Of course, many churches know that both the Old and the New Testaments forbid responsible people e.g. workers, ministers of God aspiring to become Pastors, Bishops, etc,  from taking strong alcohol, but many Pastors, as if they were sick as Timothy who was admonished by Paul to take some wine because of his ill-health, go on a  drinking spree. Do I hear you say, a little alcohol is not bad because what the bible says is “he who tarry long at the wine...”?  Correct! One may argue that tasting a little wine is not sinful, but we must be quick to admit that bad habits starts small and grows big.  A little wine today, a little tomorrow, gradually increases until the drinker habitually develops appetite for higher doses.

So, the target of a responsible Christian should be to totally refrain himself or herself from strong alcohol.  I don’t know if you still indulge in drinking strong alcohol, I urge you, to prayerfully discourage this habit by dropping your cup of wine and get drunk with a better alcohol – the Holy Spirit.  (Act 2:4 says, “And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance.” )  There’s no other alcohol stronger than the Holy Spirit.  You don’t need dry-gin, ogogoro, hemp, cocaine, heroine, or any form of intoxicant made by man to keep yourself alert and perform well in your career. They will injure you in the end. The only alcohol that will leave you better than it met you and make you more positively productive is the Holy Spirit.

When inspired by the Holy spirit, I find myself incapable of writing all the books that I am inspired to write so I select the ones that time has permitted me to do.  Whereas when I was engaging in drinking all forms of alcoholic drinks, I ran dry of these inspirations!  Let me give one example. The Holy Spirit has inspired to write more than 10 books on Gen. 1:28 alone.  I have only accomplished three so I still have a long way to go to write the remaining 7!

Dropping your cup of alcoholic wines will  not happen like a bang.  Start by reducing the volume you take and begin to cultivate the habit of praying simple prayers for your deliverance until you are able to set a definite time you will stop depending upon man-made alcohol.

 As you are doing that, begin to read your Bible.  The more you read it, the more the Holy Spirit steps into your life and get you possessed.  And by the time you have stopped taking strong alcohol entirely, the Holy Spirit would have remoulded you, body soul and spirit that you will be more inclined to Him and never to alcohol again.

Note! The truth is that in many churches where leaders engage in the habit of drinking alcohol, they will be reluctant to preach concerning it or be very soft if at all they preach about it.  

In Islam, my Islamic Lecturer, also taught me that there were three changes that occurred as regards alcohol consumption: the permissive periods when Muslims were allowed to consume alcohol as they wished, when they were permitted to drink little. The third and current stage is that Islam forbids genuine Muslims from alcohol consumption.
Back to the subject proliferation of religions, let me make two categorical statements here:  all religions (except perhaps few traditional religions which engage in barbaric practices), agree on morality, good works  love for neighbours, etc., but as far as going to heaven is concerned,  morality and good works alone will not avail us.

Secondly, and without being judgmental, I say that all religions, except one, are man-induced and devoid of the presence of the Holy Spirit.  Therefore they are unlikely to lead their adherents to heaven.  

You may wish to know the basis of my conclusions. To do this, please proceed to the next chapter.

 Chapter 5
Religious Proliferations
(A Case Study)

Once upon a time in my life, I got so confused about the subject of proliferation of religions.  In my state of confusion, I did not know which way to follow.  Then I decided to carry out a modest research and my findings led me to take a decision as to which religion to adopt and which group should I belong to within the religion I finally chose.
I am devoting this chapter to a report on the research work if only it can help you to carry out your own research too.  Now let’s proceed.
On God’s Existence
As I grew up, I queried every axiom of life.  Religion was one particular area where I went into extensive research to convince me of the need or necessity to recognize and serve God in the first place
Without wasting time concerning His existence, I confirmed that God exists, I found Him too awesome, big and complex to be subjected to human scientific or logical proof.  So I had to draw the curtains on my research in order not to present myself as either faithless or agnostic.”   I therefore settled for the existence of a single God, Who is Almighty.
The next thing I did was to research into the world of religions so as to know which one would guarantee my salvation.  This is because there are too many of them, all claiming to lead their converts to salvation.  They tended to confuse rather than help me.  As a result I tried all I could to identify the various religions of the world and researched some of them.  I also studied some para-religious bodies such as the mystics.  I reproduce below my findings concerning all the religions and para-religions I specifically researched into and below are my findings:
The Various Religions
Traditional Religions
The belief of our animist ancestors is that truly, there’s one God which Yoruba people called “Olodumare” and the Ibos called “Chineke”.  But the two cultures believe that there are other lesser gods and that you need to pass through them to reach out to the biggest one.  (Islam however narrowed down an average Hausa man’s belief to only one God called “Allah”.)  So the Yoruba and Ibo people invented many lesser gods and worship them so they can carry their requests to their overall head – The Almighty God.  These gods range from wood, iron, fellow human beings and animals, to the star, the moon, the sun, and so on.  This belief tended to be supported by Christianity which often refer to the Almighty God as the “LORD of lords”.  But these lesser “lords” in Christianity do not refer to man-made gods.  Rather it refers to human beings e.g. to kings and other fellow human being who are lords over themselves and the eco-system made by the most superior God – The Almighty God.   For instance a husband is a ‘lord’ to the wife as Sarah did call Abraham her Lord.
But my view is that if the contents of our history books, which were very explicit about the origins of most of our traditional religions, were anything to rely upon, my conclusion about all traditional religions is that they are man-made, which cannot be practised at the exalted level or presence of the Almighty, Omni-potent, Omniscience, Omni-present and Awesome Jehovah Who is the invisible God - the creator of the heavens, the seas and the earth, and more”

There are (Contrary) Spirits
Once upon a time, someone dear to me had a challenge that required spiritual intervention beyond simple prayers. Through this, fate unavoidably brought me into contact with the activities of a local religion which combined Ifa oracle with spiritism.  I used the words “fate” and “unavoidably” from the onset because I had necessary precautions before going and had been convinced beyond reasonable doubts by our companion that we were visiting a true prophet of God rather than an Ifa Priest.  Prior to this time I had not taken seriously the existence of “principalities and powers” even though the Bible made ample references to them.  Honestly I had never taken deliverance ministry so seriously for I doubted the existence of demons.
However, judging from the level of its accuracy, what I saw with my eyes and heard with my own ears were astounding especially when compared to earlier orthodox medical and pastoral findings concerning the matter.  This extent of scientific precision on the part of Ifa oracle made me marvel and it confirms the Bible's postulations about their existence.”  After this experience, my belief about existence of demonic powers changed.  I now believe they are real and exist.  However, they are evil, therefore, I am not and cannot be attracted to their ways.  God Almighty remains my one and only God.
Para-Religious Bodies
Mysticism
Mysticism is not particularly a religion but from the practice of it is made to look like one.   That is why mystic organizations always say you can retain your existing religion side-by-side membership of their bodies.
“For a very short while, I went outside religion. I did not join them but I read some literature on the Rosicrucian Order and I had the distinct feeling that ultimately, Rosicrucian is antithetical to Christianity and that they are mutually exclusive.
Like others I have reviewed earlier, the AMORC is not a religion, a fact they themselves acknowledge but a parody of Christian beliefs anchored on human intellectualism.  They are more concerned with developing leadership traits rather than the salvation of souls.  Therefore they discuss Christ, as well as Mohammed only as great leaders (which no doubt they were) with certain admirable qualities but they do not truly analyse the salvation aspects of their leadership.  Christianity is a sufficient way of life but AMORC has no enduring spiritual platform to uplift the human spirit for ever more as Christianity does.  Having seen these signals, I left AMORC’s literatures alone.
Still not satisfied, I saw an advertisement placed in one of the newspapers for the membership of a body called the “MYSPOTEM”. This time around, I did not waste time in joining their Neophyte Membership category.  Their first two literature offerings did not contradict the Bible in any way.  But from the 3rd to the 7th, they contained practices, which sharply contradict biblical doctrines of the New Testament.  We used candles, lavenders and white handkerchief to perform what was called “ablutions” during our quiet times usually in the quiet period of the nights, which contradict the Pentecostal approach to Christianity.  The more I advanced in their teachings the more the irreconcilable contradictions.
Personally, I would not, simply because I disagree with their practices, daub AMORC or MYSPOTEM as secret societies.  A particular Christian group has claimed this against AMORC in the past and they were taken to court and the court ruled against the former. However, I consider all the benefits in their practices as something like “bodily exercise” which Apostle Paul rightly opined in the Holy Bible “profiteth little” (1 Tim. 4:8).  Christianity offers us the completeness we are looking for both to have a good success in this planet and to enter into the Kingdom of God we all seek after.
Again, my candid opinion is that it is not possible practically for one to belong to those societies and still remain a true disciple of Christ.  Surely, there are fundamental conflicts in teachings that cannot be reconciled without rationalizing one's faith.
No doubt the net-working, the inspirational books, the observation of quiet times at regular intervals can help their members to excel in creative thinking and develop their competence.  The fact that many of their members are already financially successful people can lead to direct assistance to their members, yet I found the Bible offering a fuller and complete package compared to their goodies which they offer their adherents.  So I left them alone.
The main purpose of revealing this much information on my religious conviction is to enable readers to realize that their experiences and situations are not unique or novel, because I have been a co-traveller in the bewildering experiences of human existence.  It will let them realize that even as a Minister of God, I have, like them, gone through and am still going through, some, if not all of what are agitating their minds today.  By seeing how I resolved such life's conflicts, it will aid them also to shape their lives for the better.
I also want to enable them appreciate the realities of the dilemma of man in spiritual issues as I similarly questioned everything about life before I chose to be what I have become.  I have played out the inquisitiveness of man's nature!
Eckankar
According to their leadership Eckankar is a religion of light. Like the Christians, they now have worship centres all over the place and they conduct their services on Sundays.  However, the few materials I read about them did not fascinate me at all.  It’s like dancing round some aspects (particularly singling out the ‘light’ aspect of God).  But God has many attributes which ought to be taken together.
Hare Krishna,
I read quite a number of Hare Krishna magazines.  The more I knew of them and compared them with Christianity, the clearer it became to me that their religion departs from the teachings of the Bible.  They haven't the originality and depth of Christianity.  They are based on ordinary human aspirations and emotions.  For instance, one Hare Krishna literature quotes Exod. 20:13 which says, 'Thou Shall Not Kill” (MKJV) to mean “thou shall not kill animals for food” to justify that all beings should be vegetarians!    Reviewing the Hare Krishna assertion, there is nothing wrong with being vegetarians but its practice has no religious connotation but has only excellent medical justification.
Being vegetarians from youth is a healthy practice.   More importantly, those above 40 years upwards may live far longer if they remove  flesh in the form of red meat which we consume regularly, and which add less value to our health and eat much of assorted vegetables.  It is common knowledge that vegetarians hardly suffer from common illnesses as indigestion or constipation because their digestive systems are not over-burdened and therefore function better.  Practitioners could also avoid such animal diseases as the 'mad cow' disease that rocked Britain a few years ago. It is a sure way for shaping for the better, the health aspect of our lives tomorrow.   But, even then, if vegetarianism were a complete way for longevity, most human beings would since have adopted it as the most acceptable way of feeding!
Islam
When I was in the University, I purposely added Islamic Studies to my course content.  I went into it as part of my research into religions and I was very keen to know the basis of the Islamic Religion.  
The Central Figures in Islam are God called “Allah”, Prophet Mohammed and his followers.  Islam through Prophet Mohammed did so much to correct the moral decadence of the people of his time, particularly when God has stopped speaking to the then Christians.  Islam like Christians believes in life after life i.e. there’s a God to whom we shall all return.  They also believe in Heaven (Al-janna) a place of everlasting rejoicing and Hell a place of eternal torment. The greatest controversy is in the channel through which people will inherit this heaven - Mohammed or Jesus?

On morality, my discovery from such studies is that contrary to what quite a number of our so-called Muslims are practising, Islam, like Christianity, actually preaches peace, love, monogamy (not polygamy), total abstinence from alcohol  (not drink a little alcohol), absolute morality, and so on.  But is Islam the way to Heaven?  Let’s not jump into conclusion until we have compared as many religions as possible or better still until we have thoroughly compared Islam and her counterpart, Christianity very well.  We will do that after we have examined the latter.

 Christianity
The Faith, The Books and The Churches
The central figures in Christianity are God, Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit.
I subjected (Christianity) to thorough investigation.  I went back to the various versions of the Bible  (The King James Version, New International Version, American Standard Version, Revised Standard Version, Version, The New King James Version, The Living Bible, Good News Bible) and as many more of other versions as possible.   …! I read a considerable part of them, especially their introductions and the teachings of Jesus Christ himself.
I researched thoroughly into their origins.  I was very much interested in the extent of their completeness or otherwise.  I discovered the nature of man through the Bibles and also the number of innocent lives that were lost in the process of trying to make the Bible available to everyone as we have it today.  I understood the meaning of the word “Authorised” appended to the King James' Version and all the troubles concerning its origin, the life that was lost who made the moving statement “if only God would open the King's eyes”, - uttered by the man being executed for his daring to make the Bible available to the society at large!   I discovered the fact that there were some other books containing the works and miracles performed by some Kings, Prophets, and even Jesus Christ that were not contained in the Bible. I also gathered ample information on how the books of the Bible were authenticated before including them and why other books were rejected.  I got to discover that the Seven Books of Moses is not a book that a book that a heaven-bound Christian should possess talkless of using as a base for his faith.

 Chapter 6
 (The Catholic and the Protestants)
The Catholic Church
It is a known fact that the Catholic Church is the very first church.  Every other church is outside her is Protestant.  In other words, they broke away from the Catholic Church in to ‘protest’ some doctrinal beliefs and policy thrusts they did not share with the church.  Also the Pentecostals are breakaways from both the Catholic and the other orthodox Protestants.  They broke away principally because they disagreed with some practices or doctrines in the orthodox churches.
The history of the church actually reveals that, apart from the Catholic, all other churches were established according the convictions of their founders.  So wherever you worship you either belong to the Catholic or the Protestant.
I attended the Catholic Church, and its school.  My observations while there were that in order to ensure that pupils were conscious of God, they made Bible Studies a compulsory subject.  If you failed in it and passed in all other subjects, all the same, you will not be promoted to the next class.  So we were bound to do all we could to pass that subject whose main aim for us was to move to the next class and not for purposes of spiritual development as the Church intends!  And that practice did not particularly build my spiritual consciousness.
What did not help me then was that the mode of worship in Catholic churches was too dull for my young mind, to become particularly spiritually sensitized.  Young minds are energetic, inquisitive, and they believe in something that triggers them off.  But the Catholic approach was rather too easy-going that I saw it as mere formalities.  They also did not make enough conscious efforts to let the children, now that we needed to do extra Bible reading beyond what we were taught to pass our examinations than to become a true disciple of Jesus Christ which should be the ultimate goal.
As a result, I considered church attendance more important than Bible reading whereas both ought to be taken together. The Bible is about salvation, not passing promotional exams to higher classes!
Personally, till date, I still continue to wonder what values the burning of incense and candles or the sprinkling of water during services by Catholic churches are adding to the salvation of the souls of their followers who do not value Bible reading.  To me I see these practices as a continuation of Old Testament practices or a carry-over of Jewish practices than the New Testament approach, which is fashioned after both Christ and the formalities of the early Apostles who fought to carry on His methods and teachings.  Adults, particularly the uneducated ones, may enjoy these practices, but the young ones who are anxious to gain deep knowledge of the word of God may find it particularly boring. For me, it did not fascinate me at all.  
Because of the above considerations, I did not feel like continuing my faith under the Catholic system.
The Anglican Church
I was born into the Anglican setting and my very early days were spent in primary school and they were the first church to teach me Bible stories.   The greatest instrument in their hands then which ensures that every pupil in their school was evangelized was that they made Christian Religious Studies   compulsory  .  A failure in it was a failure in all therefore no promotion to the next class.  Our Bible studies were not beyond the preparations we made towards passing those examinations.  The most important aspect of the study which would have been to make us study the Bible in our private capacities so we can grow spiritually was not emphasized.  Even though passing CRS was made compulsory, church attendance was not. So majority of us did not value the importance of attending church services, except perhaps on Sundays and when we attended, we did not go for there because we thirsted for Christ.  Again, the approach to service whenever we attended church services is not as involving and sensitizing as you have in the Pentecostal churches of today.
Our situation spiritual situation was particularly worsened particularly too as our majority of our parents were not themselves spiritually sound and did not help to inculcate in us the habit of studying the Bible on our own.
Now am an adult and can assess better.  I can see that the leadership of Anglican churches are introducing some measures (especially prayer patterns) that will help move young minds towards salvation but so much still needed to be done on their part to ensure that the lukewarmness on the part of the youths in responding to these changes is tackled.   They need to emphasise to the youths from time to time the need study and meditate constantly upon the Bible.
The Other Orthodox churches
Except for the Methodist church whose primary school I attended at Idanre in the 60’s,  and whose religious practices I participated in as a pupil, I  am not that too familiar with the practices of the Baptist and other orthodox protestants.   As for the Methodist, their practices are far from those of the Catholics but akin to those of the Anglicans.   So I rate them all the way I rate the Anglicans.
The Missing Gap
To be candid, no church will influence the spiritual life of a child better than his parents.  Parents ought to tame their children spiritually at home and then the job will become easier for the churches.   So my realisation as a parent and a pastor is that the missing gap is the fact that parents leave their children’s spiritual lives in the hands of churches.  Churches are to give guidelines on how a Christian life should be spent.  Parents are to police and enforce the doctrines of the churches in the lives of their children. So long as this gap still remains, society will continue to suffer moral decadence.
 Chapter 7
The Protestants Churches
(The Pentecostals)
The Pentecostal are churches like Christ Apostolic Church, The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Deeper Christian Life Bible Church, Winners, The Redeemed Evangelical Mission, Mountain of Fire,  to mention but a few.
These churches share two main things in common relentless prayerfulness and Bible studies.  However, some of them over-emphasized miracles such that their adherents tended to depend upon it rather than take their jobs and lives seriously in order to prosper. The correct Bible teaching in the book of Rom. 12:11 is that Christians should not be “slothful in business, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord.”. If we all practice these provisions, Christians will be more fruitful spiritually and in their places of work than they currently are. Over dependence upon miracles has rendered many lazy. Ignorance therefore still reigns in the lives of many converts.

Another topical issue that is of great concern is young Christians who should take their careers as seriously as they take their spiritual endeavours rushing to become over-night full-time pastors.
However, I personally feel that, yes, there is need for pragmatism, but some of them have developed to the point of being grating and deceitful as to capitalize upon the low station in use of their converts and exploit their ignorance and poverty.    If you asked me, I would say we have got to a point where those who seemingly lead the fight to 'kill the unseen enemies have themselves become their own foes. They neglected to do the obvious practical things that will keep believers' minds or attention focused on the productive ways of existence, which will lift them beyond the poverty level and prepare their souls for salvation.  Rather, futile harangues in a loud bombastic declamation are often expressed with strong emotions!
I did make specific findings concerning a few of them. My findings are as follows:
The Cherubim and Seraphim Church
My mother took me to the Cherubim and the Seraphim Church for some time. I attended the Gospel Faith Mission, The Christ Gospel Church and, during the most part of my bachelorhood, I was an active devotee of Christ Apostolic Church where I was of the Choir.  I studied their doctrines.  As for the Cherubim & the Seraphim Churches, most of my candid observation (without necessarily being judgmental please) is that some of their converts  especially the youths - definitely live at cross-purposes, wherefore they see the church more as a social fraternity than a place to progressively get involved in propagating the word. They need more exposure to living the word.  The idea of their leaders having more than one wife and yet remaining in leadership positions clearly runs contrary to what the Bible says in 1Ti 3:2  thus, “A bishop then must  be blameless, the husband  of one wife,  vigilant, sober, of good behavior,  given to hospitality, apt to teach.”  How would a leader who himself is married to more than one wife tell his followers that that practice  is unbiblical?  My suggestion is that they need a corrective dose of re-orientation in the word of God!

Christ Apostolic Church
Perhaps because of the educational background of some of our preachers then, some of the Christ Apostolic Church sermons were far below the level of God's standard for me intellectually.  Or what does one make of my Pastor (then) who saw me reading Chinua Achebe's  “Things Fall Apart” in preparation for my GCE examination and he exclaimed,  “Brother John, what are you doing with a worldly book instead of reading the Bible alone?” Honestly that statement ran me cold.  How did he expect me to read only the Bible for my non-religious exams?  It was obvious that my spiritual father missed the point and I could not abide with such company and religious misleading! (Many young fellows had fallen victims of such teachings in the past and many unwary students will still follow suit!).
At the CAC, we exerted too much energy praying without planning and we left what needed to be done (hard work) undone!    We were inundated with so much sermons about the 'enemies', the spiritual forces, to the point of confusion for a young mind like mine.  At a stage, I wondered whether we should not concentrate more on praying and working for positive things rather than making enemies of every human being that came our way.  It was in  the CAC that I felt so holy within myself that I regarded every other person as a sinner.  Even at a particular stage, I became a reject because I had nobody to relate with anymore!  As we were intolerant of people, so we were with the other religions, especially Islam.  
The Deeper Life Ministry.
When the Deeper Life Ministry started sometime in the 1970s, members of our CAC Church got so excited at their Bible teachings that we all virtually trooped to her Gbagada Study Centre.  It was then a purely inter-denominational Bible Study Centre, not a Church in the real sense as it is today.
“It was primarily pressure from existing churches which led Pastor Kumuyi to start   Sunday worship for Deeper Life members thus forming a new Church, rather than remaining as an interdenominational ministry…”
At best it can be said that the founding of the church was not based on a direct but implied call by God.   And it is thriving today.
Their initial doctrinal beliefs on cardinal issues like marriage and technology, though were more logical in reasoning and legalistic in practice than spiritual.  For instance they forbade, and legalistically too, marriage and the use of technological devices such as the Television. On marriage, the Bible made marriage optional, while on technology, it requires moderation and positive usage. Understandably there have been modifications to these views today to reflect what they should be.
But these conflicting signals in the Deeper Life, however kept me in the CAC before I finally found myself in the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), not by mine but by God’s own design!   It was only later I found out the difference between TREM and RCCG. Both are ok. But God wants me to be in RCCG instead.
The Gospel Faith Mission
The Gospel Faith Mission. The approach was similar to that of CAC, then highly laden with emotion and I did not waste my time there at all.
Christian Science
I have also read some materials in the Christian Science.  Such materials did not convince me that they are towing the path of the Bible 100%.   I withdrew from them.
The Seventh Day Adventist
The Seventh Day Adventist Church is an Orthodox church.  The sharpest difference between them and other churches is that they retain Saturdays as their own ‘rest’/worship days as was at the very beginning but other churches observe theirs on Sundays, the day Jesus Christ rose from the grave.   I read a particular book by a topmost leader of the church which tried to explain that the ‘fruit’ Eve ate is not fruit as in the fruit of a tree but sexual intercourse.   My belief is that if this is what is held to be the truth, it can mislead people.    Throughout the Bible, a spade is called a spade.  So, I have my reservations about that assertion..

 The Redeemed Christian Church of God
It was easier for me to investigate RCCG in more details because I worship with them but I kept my mind open to the possibility of calling it quit if I discovered anything that can impede my making heaven at the end of my Christian race.  As a result of this, I painstakingly made thorough investigations about the Church through its own literature and from discussions with friends.  Good enough, they had ample materials revealing so much about the founder, the doctrines and the incumbent General Overseer, Pastor Enoch Adejare Adeboye.  The more questions I asked, the more answers I found.  I became fascinated.
During mid-week and Sunday services, I flowed very well with everything done.

First, I discovered there was a balanced preaching of salvation and the need and how to succeed here on earth. Their presentation aligned with my concept of Christianity!  My concept of Christianity is that it is an avenue to enjoy all-round prosperity on earth and make heaven when we die.

Secondly, RCCG, as a church, caters absolutely for the souls of everyone irrespective of whether you are holy, semi-holy or unholy.  RCCG has the passion to win ALL souls to its fold.

Thirdly, RCCG receives you the way you are.  You are then indoctrinated with the Word of God through such channels as its Believer's Class, the Sunday School, The School of Disciples and other Biblical trainings until you come to self-realisation and acquire the sound ability to make mature choices!
The Church elevates you to appreciate holiness and righteousness, which informs the choice of names, such as Model and Classical, given to parishes.  If the parish is classical, they are likely governed with much do's and don'ts in the pattern of the CAC, brooking no compromise at all. If you can't stand such toughness, you may belong to the Model parishes, which predominate in the Church.  They contain the trendy ones, mostly the youth and females who invariably prefer to sport trouser suits, flaunt the airs of the generally fashionable and the educated  diction exudes class!
My understanding of the church leadership's philosophy is for one to serve God with one's heart through the full exposure to the Word of God, by which one should operate at one's individual capacity to please God.  I share this view very much.  It differs from the outlook of the previous places (except Powerline Bible Church which shares the same approach with RCCG) where I have worshipped before joining the RCCG..  
The policy of establishing branches within five minutes of walking (or for car owners, five minutes of driving) distance to worshipers' residence is laudable and visionary.  It is admirable.  It challenges those who are zealous for God to become leaders quickly and has reduced leadership tussles in the Church to the barest minimum by the ready opportunities available to the ambitiously restless.  It answers Christ's statement that the harvest is plenty but that the labourers are few!
One other thing I cherish in RCCG is the inculcation of the spirit of hard work and intellectual development through continuing education.  Much of the preaching is decidedly educative and a constant reminder to the student adherents in particular to buckle up always and not relent in their studies.  So  mediocrity has no foothold in the congregation.
Above all, salvation of every member is the ultimate goal in RCCG.  Holiness and righteousness are her emphasis and a lot of biblical training opportunities for adherents to know how to attain the much desired salvation.  No doubt a lot of miracles happen during preachings, which only evidences the fact that God still performs the wonders of old today.   If any member wants to really understand this policy of the church clearly, it is important for him or her to join the School of Disciples. The practical aspect of RCCG is manifest there!  RCCG is rooted on holiness, rightgeousness and salvation.
RCCG also believes that good Christians are needed in all facets of leadership (including politics) to run the affairs of any nation well.
These two goals for a man to live an accomplished and balanced life to inherit the kingdom of God tally with my own understanding of God's purposes for our lives.
However, the administrative process of managing so many parishes everywhere creates a big financial challenge for members generally and the leaders especially the Parish Pastors.


The Controversies about RCCG
In every organisation, there will always be grey areas.  The one that seems to have brought controversies in RCCG, as far as my research revealed, centred on the aspect allegation that members cannot leave the church even if they are called by God to establish their own churches and that if they did, such churches shall not prosper.
During the General Council meeting led by The General Overseer in the 2012 Convention, I was privileged to hear directly from Daddy Adeboye  on this subject, He said that people can leave RCCG if they so wished.  If they do so, the doors of the church are still left open for them to return within one year if they so wished.  However, after one year, they will no longer be considered members of the church.
Therefore, this declaration by Daddy did not support the rumour making the rounds then that one cannot leave RCCG. Indeed those who were present who wished to leave RCCG were given the opportunity to do so right their and then before those willing to stay entered into a fresh covenant with the General Overseer as to their decision to remain in RCCG.
The Jehovah Witnesses
I have read quite a number of The Jehovah Witness' literatures (the Awake in particular).  On any article they set out to write, I discovered that they always begin very beautifully well relying on the Bible. However, half-way through, they degenerate into ordinary intellectual write-ups based on human reasoning to the end.
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (The Mormons)
By all standards, this church looks like any other Bible believing churches.  Their religious practices and ways of life are akin to the normal Pentecostal churches setting.  They dress well and observe good moral code of conduct.  They are very dedicated to the service of God in their own way.  They hardly have more than one church in any town or village but the churches are well equipped and tastefully furnished.  They also have sporting facilities for their members.  You will love everything about them.  They produce a lot of wonderful literature materials for their members.
However, they go beyond the Bible as base for their faith. They have  a book which they considered as being equal to the Bible.  It is called the book of Mormons, another book which, like the Bible, according to them, was inspired or revealed by God to their Founder.  These book, and other materials are on the internet for free.  You may just Google “the book of mormons” and it will be brought out in a matter of seconds!
The Bible is the only book authentic book that a real Christian should depend upon as a basis of his faith.  All doctrines must necessarily emanate from it, no other sources!  The inclusion of the book of mormons as a doctrinal base makes that church unattractive to me, because the Bible forbids such.  You can neither add to nor subtract from the contents of the Bible!
The Grail Message
I read a few materials about this religious body too.  I also listen to some of their postulations and beliefs as aired over the radio or the television from time to time.  I am not at all convinced that they are the way to salvation of souls.  So I wasted no time in dropping them.
 Chapter 8
A Brief Comparative Analysis
of Islam & Christianity  and Churches v. Churches
Christianity v. Islam
The most fundamental difference between Islam and Christianity is the issue of the path to eternity - Jesus or Mohammed?
After personally comparing the antecedents of these two men, Mohammed and Jesus Christ, I am more persuaded and have preferred to remain with Jesus because there is something more supernatural about him and which goes deeper to the foundation of the world.
His latter-day counterpart, Mohammed and Islam, I noted, actually began on or around the period when men had lost connection with God about 400 years after the second century of Christian dispersal through persecution.  Therefore Christianity pre-dates Islam.  I also compared the circumstances of the birth, the works and the death of the two men and got more convinced that Jesus Christ was unique in the manner of His death at Calvary and its good portent. The fact that Jesus Christ rose from the dead, which his brother, Mohammed did not, tells me that there is something more celestially unique about the former than the latter.  His ascension to the heavens before the very eyes of those who were alive then, his walking upon water, his raising of the dead, his asserted super-natural powers, all endeared me to him the more.
When I also compared the depth of authority with which Jesus Christ spoke and acted during his ministry and the promises made from Abraham through to their exact fulfillment in the New Testament of the Bible, I had more confidence remaining a Christian than being a Muslim.
Christianity v. Christianity
The Orthodox v. Pentecostals
The Orthodox churches are the Catholic, the Anglican, the Methodist, the Baptist, The Seventh Day Adventist, the Presbyterians,  and so on.  While the Pentecostals are the vibrant Holy-Spirit-centred churches.  To me the greatest difference between the these two divides is that the former appear to be more easy-going than the latter.  The Pentecostals, on the other hand, apply more zeal, or, if you like, call it   passion, to everything they do: their prayer, their preaching, their counseling, their utterances and other church processes than the Orthodox churches like the Anglican and the Catholics.  They tutor their adherents to read the bible inside out personally.  They organize more regular and structured bible training for the laity, encourage attendance to the point that, sometimes, they live a seamless, round-the-clock work-church life.  They are more focused organically, unrelentingly, as if under pressure!  They try harder to live Christ-like by making the contents of the Bible to bear on their daily existence.  The issue of demons and how to combat them through deliverance services take a prominent place in their worship.  Conversely, most often than not, their converts narrow down their 'enemies' to those they can see physically - their immediate neighbours, co-workers, some bosses, and, in the extreme cases, their mothers, fathers, brothers and extended families!  They become over-protective of themselves and leave what needs to be done to eradicate poverty from their lives and chase the shadows like the proverbial Don Quixote!

 Chapter 9
I Chose to Be A Christian
As mentioned somewhere in the earlier part of this book, the aim of providing all the information above is chiefly to afford the readers of this book the opportunity to see how much efforts I invested in researching into the world of religions in order to clear the confusions I initially had.  It is also to let them know the basis of the decisions I took as a result of my findings.
Having compared as many religions as I could, I was more convinced that Christianity is the best way that leads to heaven.  As a result of this conviction, I decided not only to remain a Christian that I am today but invite all readers of this book to choose Jesus Christ as their Lord and personal Saviour from now on. .
However, I still have a hurdle jump.  Of the myriads of Churches and Christian denominations, which church appeals to me most as a church that can truly lead man to God?   Of the two main divisions in Christianity - The Catholic (the original church) and the Protestants, I was able to say that people in the Protestants (not all of them!) seem to have a stronger point than the Catholic Church if only for one thing, they seem to engage in less and less religious rituals.
Again, amongst the Protestants are the Pentecostals.  I prefer to align with the Pentecostals because they more particularly don’t believe in other books other than the Bible.  Secondly, they are more spiritually sensitive than the Protestant Orthordox churches.  They are more fervent in spirit than their Orthodox counterparts.  Almost all committed members of the Pentecostal churches read the Bible on their own and pray on their own which is not so in the Orthodox churches.  They are more eager to observe the commandments of God in terms of moral code, payment of tithes, offerings, etc.   They constantly develop in the spirit than an average Orthodox church member.
Of course, they have their short comings too!   Many of them tend to become careless or demonstrate ‘holier than thou’ attitude.  But this depends upon whom you are dealing among them. Again they tend to become lazy as they expect miracles than work.  Again, this depends upon the perception of those we are dealing with amongst them.  It also depends so much on the leadership direction their leaders offer them, which again depends upon the nature of the churches they attend and the practices therein.
Now coming to the churches, from the information already provided, I was able to finally settle for The Redeemed Christian Church of God as a church because I believe that she is capable of leading one to Heaven, particularly if the tempo or their doctrinal beliefs, teachings, and quality leadership are sustained.
 Chapter  10
Christianity Points The Way to Heaven
 The summary of this comprehensive research work on religion is that based upon the points raised in the chapter dealing with religion comparisons, I am convinced that of all the various religions in the world, I consider Christianity as the only religion that not only points the way, but unquestionably leads to heaven. That’s the basis of my remaining a Christian that I am till date.
Having also examined practically all the major churches in Christianity, I am convinced that in the orthodox churches, there are many Christians who are more concerned with their secular businesses than being spiritually fervent thereby toying with their salvation.  Whereas in the Pentecostal fold, there are many Christians who are ‘fervent in the spirit’ but are careless about their secular lives thereby leading them to financial and material poverty which in turn is capable of denying them their places in heaven.  The best position would have been for both groups to produce Christians that are “not lazy in business but fervent in the spirit”.  It is this category of Christians, be they in the orthodox or protestant or Pentecostal churches that are more likely to make heaven than the two groups earlier mentioned.
 Chapter 11
Where Do You Want to Belong?
The main object of this book is that its readers who are yet to believe in Christ should leave the unprofitable world of unbelief and become a follower of Jesus Christ.  This is the only way their lives can be meaningful and fulfilling and make heaven at the end of your sojourn in this world.  
Having said that, the next question I need to ask those of you who are already religious is:, is,  where do you want to belong form now on?  My candid recommendation to you is that you should belong to the Christian fold.   You have read the details as to why you should do so in the previous chapter, and I believe that that chapter actually set removed all the confusions you had before reading this book.    If still in doubt, I suggest you re-read it again.  
The second important point I need to make is this:  I want you to belong to a Bible believing church. And I want you to do that without delay, say the very next Sunday following the day you read this book.  To properly introduce yourself, just go to the Pastor of such church and show him this very page of this book and that I invite you to join his church.
There are many Bible believing churches all over the place.  The size of the church does not matter.  If God calls them, He will back them up.  How do you identify them?  That’s what the next chapter of this book is devoted to answer.


Chapter 12
Identifying a
Bible Believing Church
How do you know a Bible believing church? There are some factors that will help you.  Before you join any church, make detailed inquiries about the leadership of such church and the doctrinal beliefs of the church.  Even though the church may have a wide variety of Christian literatures, the Holy Bible alone should be her doctrinal base.  In other words, she should not have any other doctrines outside the Bible.  All other literatures must simply be explanations and right interpretations of what the Bible holds as true.  No matter how strong the writer of any book may be, if he contradicts the Bible, his works should be discarded.  No matter how strongly inspired a writer may be, his or her postulations should never be taken as the doctrine of a Bible believing church.   In other words, the only authentic book for Christian doctrines is the Holy Bible.  Others may help to interpret and amplify but not to replace it or share the same level of authority or bindingness with it.
A good church must spell out her tenets for all to see.  For example the RCCG has produced books, audio tapes, CD’s etc that spell out all her doctrinal beliefs.
Again, having read through the processes I adopted in my research into religions as earlier stated, I believe they provide you with adequate information about many popular churches.  These information can be very helpful to you in the course of conducting your own, the ample information provided in earlier chapter about many churches will be of immense help to you but if you still need us to guide you further, please do not hesitate to contact us at The Redeemed Christian Church of God, (Achievers Mobile Centre) Tel. 08034465225.
Again, find out who is the founder? Find out if and how he was called by God, if he rebelliously broke away from a bible believing church to found his own, according to his own will, or because he hates discipline, don’t follow him. If you do, he will lead you astray.  Consider what is his life-style like?  If he has more than one wife, please quit that church.  If he or she is a divorcee be wary for God does not cherish divorce no matter how strong is the basis for the divorce.   There’s the danger that he has compromised his faith somewhere so. .  If he did, quit his church.  Another phenomenon is that many churches capitalize upon the ignorance of the people by centering their prayers upon ‘enemies, witches, wizards but never focus on important doctrines as pursuing, deep knowledge of the word of God and preaching the gospel, holiness, etc.  Prov. 14:23 says,

Another sign by which you will identify a true bible believing church is their adherence to bible’s doctrine, particularly on how to deal with our enemies.  From Genesis to revelation, God and Jesus says ‘Vengeance is God’s’.  (Rom. 12:19) And we were commanded to treat our enemies well instead of trying to avenge them.
Prov. 25:21 says ‘21 If thine enemy be hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he be thirsty, give him water to drink.  Romans 12:14-21 say: ‘4 Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not. 15 Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. 16 Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits.
17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. 18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. 19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. 20  Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. 21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
Any church where the doctrine is based on taking vengeance by themselves rather than leaving it to God, the I beseech you leave that church.  Their stock in trade are: kill the enemies, fall and die, and so on.  They hardly teach people the provisions of the Bible above.  They hardly direct the hearts and minds of their converts towards hard work.  Rather they encourage them to migrate from one mountain to another fighting wars with their imaginary enemies, including members of their own families!  They discountenance the what God says about vengeance which is His.   From Genesis to Revelation wherever vengeance needed to be taken, it remained God’s prerogative.  He destroyed Pharaoh Himself, the Israelites did not.  He destroyed Saul Himself, not King David in spite of all the opportunities he had to do so.  Instead David punished the person that brought the news of his death.  He destroyed Jezebel, Ahab’s wife. 2Kings 9:30-end.  He destroyed the world through flood, not through human beings.  One thread that cuts across all these vengeances is that it is God Himself who determined the kinds of punishments to mete to the enemies not the people. Any church that leads you to the path of war against anybody, your friends inclusive, that church does not follow the bible.  It will do you no good remaining there.  Help everybody, including your enemies. Let God avenge them Himself .
“Work brings profit; but mere talk leads to poverty”.  Rather than follow this important doctrine, they engage people in ceaseless prayers, excessive night vigils, ritualistic cleansing, and so on.  They even make people to feel dependent upon miracles that will happen without hard work!   If you find yourself in a church setting where the above are their trademarks, don’t waste your time anymore, quit the church.
If you are in a church where the leaders despise the pursuit of knowledge Hosea 4:6, quit and because knowledge is very basic to understanding and wisdom.  Necessarily, your Pastor must be someone who can add value to your knowledge base spiritually and intellectually.  If not, the little you know before joining him will disappear so soon so quit before that happens.  If you allow it to happen, you may not recover spiritually!
Candle lighting, using fetish means to cast out demons, giving compulsory and fearful prophesies are all concrete evidences that you are in a fake church.  All rituals have gone with the shedding of the blood of Jesus on the Calvary. If you are being asked to bring one object or the other or pay money to undo what the enemies have done to you in the past, refuse to do so, instead quit the church.
Does the church you identify with expose you to and encourages you to read the word of God and regularly, pray to God to find out truth about what God says concerning the issues of life yourself?  If not, don’t join them or if you have joined them already, quit without delay.  Do their prophesies generate fear in you than peace?  If so, quit that church immediately.
Do they particularly see nothing wrong in loving luxury e.g. alcohol, committing adultery, fornicating, uncontrolled eating habit etc?  Will the church advance your present spiritual and secular upliftment?  If no, please quit that church!
Again, don’t be contented with joining a church alone.  I want you to develop the habit of having a one-to-one relationship with your Creator. I want you to step up and become a Christian and be free indeed.  If you do, a time will come in your life that God, through the Holy Spirit, will speak to you one-on-one.
I want Christianity to transform or translate your life for the better.  Your life must be better than it was before you accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and personal Saviour.
Once again, go to any bible believing church NOW as Jesus is waiting there to receive and bless you. They will tell you all the procedures you need to go through to become steady.
In conclusion, joining a church, you need to know how to balance your spiritual and your secular lives such that you become more fruitful in both.  To this end, we have another book for you titled “Be A Fruitful Christian”.  Ask for your copy today.  It will surely help you as you grow in your Christian race.
God bless you. Amen.

Monday, April 26, 2010

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Tuesday, January 19, 2010

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Saturday, January 2, 2010

Chapters 56-59 (The End)





Chapter 56

Eradicating Poverty from
My Extended Family
 My Parents

          My ultimate vision concerning my family at large is that of total unity.  I have, however, identified poverty as the most potent weapon that can make the realization of this goal unattainable.  The blessings and joy of the single successful family member are stunted by the general poverty of the majority,  thus confirming the saying that a tree cannot make a forest.  In his kind-heartedness and willingness to meet everyone's needs, he's most likely brought down instead!
          It is poverty that breeds the wickedness among women in polygamous homes.  Poverty destroys the foundation of their love for themselves.  Poverty even precedes greed, self-centredness and all other such vices.
          I have taken out quality time to ponder on the question:  why is it that, in a polygamous home, there is so much struggle amongst mothers to covet the best for their own children?  Even in a monogamous home, why do children struggle so much to outdo themselves to the point of throwing love to the dustbin?
          Why do children from polygamous homes have no problems with the children from their maternal origins?  
           The answers are simple: on the paternal side, every woman wants her own group of the children to inherit the fattest portion of her husband's insufficient property; whereas on the maternal side, the children are bonded, because there is no contentious inheritance on that side of the family divide.  Instead, they struggle to inherit anything outside their common weal.    
This knowledge, that I received through my personal observation and experience, underpins my unrelenting fight against poverty and my continuous propagation for its destruction everywhere.


Resistance To Change

          In the process of reshaping things, I know I would step on the toes of those who would resist change, for I will not sustain the old habit of anybody receiving the gift of fish.  I am only interested in teaching and giving somebody the skill to fish.  As I do this, I foresee the agony of pain.  Yes, it is a familiar terrain, which I will not circumvent.  Pain is very necessary to win a battle of this nature.  It cost God Almighty pain to give out His “only begotten son”, Jesus Christ, for believers in Him to be saved.
          Jesus himself knowingly suffered a painful death on the cross of Calvary to accomplish God's gift of saving us.  For yams, corn, oranges, for example, to produce their kind, they must first die in their sowing or burials (pain) before they can germinate and fruitify.  For anybody to rise within or ouside a family, he must suffer some deprivation or pain.  For the persons God would use to uplift him or her, they must suffer some pains as a result of giving out to him or her what the givers ought to use for themselves.   For a place to acquire the stutus of modernity, it must suffer reshaping that wuld prune it of its bush edges that make it ancient-like and retard its further growth.
          Some, in their pains, might over-react and resort to some undesirable aggression - verbal or otherwise, but the spirit of truthfulness and undiluted love will neutralise such tendencies.
          However, on the other hand, this experience of pain among erstwhile beneficiaries will come from having to learn new ways of survival, totally different from the lackadaisical past, in a difficult manner.  Expectations of the usual largesse from the former but now reluctant “Father Christmas” will be disappointed. 
          As I write, I have two live cases on my hands: one, a boy whom God has been using me to uplift academically but who is preferring to while away the first 30 years of his useful life without attempts to be independent!!  That brewed some misunderstanding until I had to invite his parents to make him and conform to my vision for him.     
          My focus has been to give him the necessary skill as quickly as possible, at no cost, like expecting him to wash my clothes or cook my meals!  I have eagerly looked forward to the day he will graduate from the University and settle down to his own life.  He, having failed to make the JAMB requirements or secure a direct admission to any University at about the late age of 23 years,  I had to use what he already had to get a part-time Degree admission programme for him that should begin his journey to self-actualisation. 
But for the fact that he was bent on going for full-time courses, he is unwilling to cooperate, even though I pleased with him that my retirement is near and that I should know when he would graduate and when he will stop depending upon me for his daily bread.   Moreover, my own children are in the University, as well as other serious-minded people who need assistance (within an doutside the family).  I went further to plead with him to hold on to the part-time programme then and that if he eventually succeeded in obtaining full-time admission within a reasonable time, he would be allowed to abandon the part-time for it.
He did not see things that way.  He assured me that once he was able to make an upper credit in his diploma programme he was certain that LASU or any other University would admit him automatically their full-time programme.  He was made to understand that if he undertakes the 5-year part-time study admission in his hands, baring any form of strike actions, he would graduate at 28. With the one-year National Youth Service, he would be ready for employment at around 29 or 30 years.  Beyond that age-bracket, he would be risking unemployment, considering the way things or corporate policies are shaping in Nigeria!  He was too certain that nothing would stop prevent him from being admitted and I rested his case, waiting for him to come up with his dream. 
Ironically he is being short-sighted.  He wants to continue to seek direct admission at all costs no matter how long it would take him to secure one.  He is under peer pressure and, unfortunately, nobody can persuade him as he toys with his future.  His attitude negates what I stand for (remember my 25 year-rule?).  To put an end to our contention, I had to invite his parents and after extensive review of the situation, my conclusion is that if he toys with the admission in his hands and fails to secure another one before the 31st day of December 2005, he should consider himself outside my care and sponsorship of his education.  That is as far as I would compromise. 
As events turned out, he made the expected Upper Credit in his Diploma programme.  I was happy.  But LASU did not admit him automatically!  As this happened, I did not get totally tired of him still, I offered to obtain for him another part-time programme form, which was out at that time closing on the 14th of January, 2006.  Still, he wasn't keen as he said I should allow him to conclude everything about his alternative University admission.  I had no option than to allow him to satisfy himself.  As at 15th January, 2006, the LASU part-time form (his second opportunity) has closed while the feelers I am having, sadly too, does not point to the fact that things are still difficult concerning the his expectation from his alternative choice of University!  However, on the 11th of January, 2006, I forwarded the following SMS to his father, and himself:

“How far with (name withheld) admission sir.  He should remain there until he gets it because there is nothing he will be doing for himself or me here (in Lagos).”
Of course he cannot return to me unless he produces the admission letter.    It takes two to co-operate before any progress can be made.  If we are not compatible vision-wise, then our continued stay together will produce no desired result that is, for him to obtain within reasonable time, the skill, which will give him life-long dependence!
Even though all along, I have encouraged my people to live with me, it has never been for the purpose of househelp.  The aim has been to grow them so that in our corporate families, we would rise up.  Anything short of that, I am prepared to do without them or anybody for that matter!
           In our larger family also, I have already stepped on toes too.  Unfortunately those affected are people who have meant so much to me.  It is really sad and anytime I remember that, I am depressed! 
But if I truly love them, I must not be afraid to tell them the truth on the way our family can move forward.   If they don't share my vision, I will not accept to go their way as I cannot be saying 'let's rise up' while they in turn are saying 'let's remain where we are”!  I am sick and tired of the poverty-dominated level we have been all the while.  We must advance!  If anyone, no matter how closely related to me says he or she would not advance, then my policy towards that person would be that we shall remain family within the concept of what I call 'general love', which does not require over-stretching myself beyond acceptable limit.  If I find nobody to go along with me in the entire family circle, first I will go it all alone and search anywhere outside my family for people with clear visions and who are ready to move and we shall go forward together!
          For example, much as I do not preach that people should plan the size of their families, yet it follows common sense that they should only bear the number of children they can cater for by themselves and within their limited and hard-earned resources.  While doing so, they should bear in mind, too, their need for a preferred minimum standard of life, (why can't a family enjoy annual vacations?), support for poor relatives and the cost of both personal development and the irreducible contribution to Church and society.  Otherwise, families are trapped in the vicious circle of poverty, become a burden on society and suffer spiritual death in the Church where they become the subject of discussion in welfare packaging.
          Because they are permanently under pressure, their eyes and hopes are permanently pinned on the government to provide everything free for them and their children. They are the people who cry  'help, help, help' without understanding the real meaning of the word 'help' itself.  To them, 'help' means 'carry all my burdens' instead of 'I am in a temporary fix, assist me to stand on my feet again'.  Failure to meet their insatiable demands sentences their potential helpers automatically to the camp of their enemies against whom scud missiles, spiritually and otherwise, must be directed!  They have no 'progress' reports; rather, they have myriads of problems invoices they present to you to settle.  When they write letters, most often they forget to ask after the wellbeing of their potential helpers.  What comes first is an unending list of financial 'emergencies' in their lives.  They have no useful advice for anybody. They are pre-occupied with what to eat, and their appetites are never satisfied.
          Their brood of children are thereby neglected, underfed, without proper upbringing and education, psychologically and morally fragmented, rooted and silted in the delta of poverty!  The destination of those children is the votex of child labour, hardship, exposure to anti-social behaviours, which incubate wildness and, for the girl-child, sexual degeneration.  For the boy, he grows up without supervision and soon, becomes a menace to the society.
          Any child who manages to remain intact from such austere upbringing will need the special grace of God to compete amid affluent peers and achieve a worthwhile goal in life.  Such a survivor would be scarred for life and he would tend to be a difficult or complicated partner in the home or elsewhere.  Would such a person not be better, or averse to being dragged down again by the demands of siblings and relatives?  If he responded at all, would he not do so with taunts? What family would spring from such a poisoned source?  How do we contemplate a world populated by near deviants?  Would such a child not find him or herself being chased by 'the invisible enemies' from his origins and so run away from them?
          To avoid the actualisation of such a frightening scenario, I have since carried my enlightening campaign of the ideal family to the doorsteps of my own extended families. 
          I shall continue to preach the message to anyone who would listen in my life time.  If we want to step out of poverty, we must do things in moderation.  For instance, if I want to help you to grow, I must see that you are willing to grow.  I won't make myself unhappy by continuing to pay the school fees of a child that has no interest in his or her studies.  I do not see why I must involve myself in building the life of a man who would rather descend the elevator of poverty by producing children indiscriminately.  I don't see any justifiable reason  (except for stupidity of course) why I should sit by the side of the impoverished who has chosen not to use his or her own hands to work and listen to his stories of woe.  You must work to earn a living and you must be engaged in a worthwile cause to attract assistance.  Your offerings must be attractive for other sympathetic people's investment.  Only such a situation would let God minister to the hearts of His chosen 'do-gooders' to intervene in the lives of the truly needy.
          My readers, hear this:  I was once told of a story of a Tea girl who worked for one of the topmost banks in the country but who pretended to a sympathetic man that she needed money to pay for her GCE examinations.  The man believed her story and gave her the money.  However, fortuitously walking down the staircase of their multi-story building later, the man came upon the same girl where she was buying clothes with the money!  That is the kind of 'wasteful help' that some people plot.  The dresses she bought would have since been torn but if she had applied the money for the announced purpose, her GCE Certificate would have exposed her to better opportunities in life that would not tear or fade!  Let's assume that she even failed the exams but she would have thereby added value to her life having read the books.  The experiences would have improved her chances of passing the next exams and the first benefactor might have been persuaded by her perceived zeal to fund her again.
          Believe it or not, the truth is that our helpers do monitor, or at least they are interested in our progress - not only to see whether they could invest more in us but also for personal satisfaction. 

The Care of My Parents

          Ever since I identified poverty as the primary bane of life and have fought to overcome it, so I have tried progressively to protect my parents against its ravages.  I have commensurably fed, sheltered and medically catered for them.  However, I have never allowed them to drag me into emotional expenditures even if other people's children do so.  
          I started this experiment with my late mother who was vision-driven all her life.  I thank God that for the last 18 years of her life she spent with me on daily basis, she was at peace all round.  She lacked nothing good in terms of feeding, shelter, clothing, spiritual and medicare until her dying day in November, 2002.  She never suffered.   She lived a victorious life over poverty!
          As to my father (another God-favoured fellow all round) and my step-mothers, God has made it possible for us (their children), to take proper and adequate care of them  

My Siblings - generally

Part of my strategy for eradicating poverty in my family was never to engage external house-helps in my household, not even when my family was rearing children. Instead, I brought in my relations who were most likely to treat our affairs as their own.  Indeed our entire corporate family benefited from this decision.   It tied-in with my resolve to do what I could for those that lived with me which would enable them to be economically independent in the long run.  Their domestic chores were co-incidental, not reciprocal service.   Not surprisingly, when they saw love, they responded naturally by making my home their home and getting emotionally, physically and psychologically attached and involved in all that my family did. 
          This is why I assert that people are not created bad.  When they see genuine love, they will recognise it reciprocate it also.  Many of us have problems with our families because we see them as outsiders.  If we demonstrate that we truly love them, they will reciprocate our love endlessly.
          Therefore, my target was to train at least a child of every sibling of mine.  I made such relatives realise that my own reward for such gesture would be for them to respond similary to their own families and others they would interact with in future.  I also appealed to their parents not to overburden their children by breeding more children that would not only hamper our efforts at destroying poverty in our families but would make a better future a mere dream. 
          By the special grace of God, I have done this successfully for my three maternal siblings.  However, the extent of poverty eradication in their own families has been a function of how well their children followed the legacy they received from me.  I combined my God-given teaching skills to teach them the word of God on daily basis. They rehearsed my slogan: “it is not what you give to me that matters, but what you take out of my house”.  Whenever they failed to perform household cores (which was rare though), I had no problems with that.  But they knew I would fight the hell out of them if they failed to carry out their academic assignments or failed to read the books I spent my hard-earned money to buy for them. The boys were strongly aware that the moment they impregnated any girl, meant that they were set for marriage and that they must do so outside my house.   It would be stupid to expect me to cater for them and their irresponsibility.
          The girls also got the message that once they got impregnated, they were ready to get married and move in with their spouses, for the same reasons as the boys.  In addition, they were counselled on the consequences of waywardness and the ample rewards of a focused life.  Since they all were fully integrated with my nuclear family without discrimination, they lived our lives and received all the lessons of godly life I imparted to my own children.

 My Paternal Sibblings

          As would be expected in any undertaking, there have been many successes as well as failures.  The results were a natural outcome: as in the Biblical story of the sower, some seeds fell on thorny or stony grounds while others germinated on good soil.  Besides, mental capacities are different; so also are genes.  But we thank God that the right orientation has been recognised by all. The battle for a perfect world will not be won in one generation or too soon, but there is rejoicing in heaven whenever someone is liberated from the shackles of this world.
          As to my half-brothers and sisters (if that will make for specific identity even though I don't like to use the word 'half') on my paternal side, the results have not been as canalised and profound as I would have wanted them.  Part of the loss was due to the fact that I came into their lives midstream, as it were, at a much later date when their habits had died hard, as a result of initial orientations and environment.   So my effort had been concentrated on forging a like-mindedness and understanding between us and identifying in my little way with their children to achieve common cause. 
          In other words, we interact as frequently as possible, not only physically but also through constant communication and counselling.  We have a sense of unity and there is no reticence. We throw open our doors to ourselves uninhibited.       
          However, my main target is to perfectly knit our children together so that their own unity will surpass our own as their parents.  I have particularly been interested in opening their eyes to the menace of poverty in our family and that they should do everything honestly possible to ensure that it has no foothold in their lives.  This is one major gospel I have continued to preach to them and I am happy they are understanding the message.  It is a project which I have given them to deliberate upon and which we discuss from time to time.  The younger ones will meet us and join the train as they grow and expand in understanding.  I want the corporate anointing for the eradication of poverty to extend to every member of our next generation and the generations after them from now till eternity!  They are being groomed for research that will open them up to wealth-creating ventures pari passu with their ongoing higher education.  This is to enable them ample exposure academically and intellectually while my house is their University of Wealth.  I have a library full of knowledge treasures and, whenever they are on holidays, they resume classes, as it were, in my 'University' where they read inspirational books and we discuss their contents from time to time to properly orient them for self-actualisation and wealth creating to make a better world.  The challenge I have for them is to be their own employers and thereby avoid the ignorant choices we, their parents, made to struggle thereafter as worker-employee earners.. 
I am happy to see our children interact, especially during holidays when as much as possible I mix with them personally to lay bare to them my basic and utilitarian philosophy of life - an antidote to poverty. I think I have had my bearing right and we shall all flow together.

My Mother's Siblings 

          Why do I bother myself with this category of people?  It is simple.  My mother's people were the trees that formed the forest in which I was born.  One way or the other, they had contributed much, however intangible, to my upbringing.  They were the people who made my childhood a memorable and joyful one.  They formed the world in which I circulated.  They fed me, gave me water to drink and provided me warmth not only in their homes but when I was out in the cold in search of the meaning in life.  Their children were the bushes among whom I found refuge.  They were the people who cuddled me and milled around supportively when mother nursed my sick body.  They were the people who buoyed up my mother in times of turbulence.  Yes! It was they with whom my mother shared her innermost secrets. So, it has been easy to conclude, at this moment of my easy street when all is well with me, that it couldn't be better to induct them into my circle of new understanding of life.  Delivering on my life-long legacy,  I have so far been able to pull up three out of my mother's four siblings by their bootstraps.  My belief has been that trained children would help their parents and go on to train their own younger ones.  Those of them who have bought into my vision for them are benefiting their own families already.  What I owe them, thenceforth, is 'whatever I could conveniently afford, certainly not the burden of bearing all their responsibilities. For the one I could not yet help, I pray to be able to do something tangible for her someday.





Chapter 57

My Passions
For People

          As I stated at the very beginning, I am prone to some specific categories of people.  The are children, women and genuine strugglers (their sexes notwithstanding).  I am not committed for anyone outside these groupings, no matter the close or blood relationship.  Whenever I see or meet this category of concern, I instantly recognise them and we empathise automatically. 
          So let us examine briefly some of their attributes, after which I will use my wife as a symbol for the women's group.

The Children

          I feel strongly for children and their lives because they are innocent and pure - toys and puppets that are easily pliable wastefully in the harsh environment we live.  They have no malice and are like empty computers which can be freely loaded with viruses at any time.  So to me, children are fragile and they should be handled with utmost care to make their lives meaningful.

The Women

          They are akin to children, very fragile and very trusting.  Once convinced, they stake their totality to whosoever seeks them.  Between the ages of one and ten years, they are like the young flower stems in the garden.  Between 12 year and 18 years, they blossom and are full-blown rapidly.
          Everything about them gives hope but at the same time they become targets of all sorts.  They therefore become problems: to themselves, their parents and all categories of people, especially to their male counterparts.  Soon, their parents are unable any longer  to vouch for their purity of heart.  Thereafter, they become, fully, their mothers' children and responsibility because their father ceases to vouch for their character.  They become problems to themselves when, with the evolving experiences of womanhood, they soar with the dizzy feeling of the freedom to manage themselves.  So they begin to see, erroneously, their parents as threats (some in-house rivals).  They want to take time out.  They want to venture into the world.  They want to attend the night parties.  They want to belong to the group of those 'who have arrived'.  Their skirts become mini and minier.  Their blouse (these days) end high above their navel. Their jeans trousers are worn below the belt. Some of them go for the 'tights'.  Their  lips are multi-coloured, their steps now well calculated  to attract.  Above all, they become very fashion-conscious.
          This is the period when boys will obey whatever the girls say, ever trying to please them.  They (the boys) swarm around them like bees for honey or palm-wine. Even the grown-up men (married or not) are not left out of the game of natural dance of life.  They give them unsolicited gifts of all sorts, which make some girls to regard cautioners, including their parents, siblings and well-wishers as either enemies, fools or un-progressives.  They are admired by their irresponsible teachers who, willingly, offer them cheap marks whenever they are ready to 'play ball'.  Their steps are now guileful. Indeed, they tempt people and people reciprocate.
          Yet the tragic-comedy of this period is that it determines whether they will be a success or failure in life.  Only a few girls avoid acquiring permanent scars after experimenting with the signposts of adolescence: sex, drug, stubbornness, abandonment of their studies, dalliance in disco, entertainment life, weird fashion and all that.  Some would have even over-indulged in spiritual gerrymandering to the detriment of their studies!
          Unfortunately, in emotional matters, women are ruled totally by their hearts and, under such pressures, they end up in catastrophe. They are either 'accidentally' impregnated or they become so exposed to the world of contraceptives that they virtually become prostitutes with the attendant consequences.  Their educational status, whether they are in the Secondary or Tertiary institutions of learning, doesn't affect or dampen their thoughtless reactions.
          It is only a few of them, who learnt on the side of God and humbled themselves, that are able to escape the inevitable social scourge.  They are those who listened to their parents (whom they so cherished) for guidance and read good books and watched films of sound moral content.  They are those who kept good company and shared progressive views.  They are they who appreciated spiritual matters while remaining studious as they pursued their visions.
          Above all, they are those who did everything in the fear of the Lord and in moderation, determined to excel in life and be a pride to their Creator, their parents and the larger society.
          When they graduate into marriage, women are sometimes victims of the battering of cruel husbands.  That's not all.  They have no permanent names of their own, unless, God willing, they are married into good homes or are met with good fortune.  Otherwise they are victims to everlasting agony.
          When they are visited by the calamity of divorce or broken marriage, they are invariably declared persona non grata in their own parents' homes.  If they did, as in the Yoruba setting, they acquire a name no responsible lady ever wants to bear, “ilemosu”, which is a serious stigma for life.  As single parents, the society perceives them as if they are irresponsible whilst burdened by the total responsibilities of caring for their offspring.  In a man's world, their erring male partners would have 'mended' their ways and begun to perch unabashedly with other women in their lives.  Thenceforward, loneliness dogs their days until many of them end up in the psychiatric wards.
          Even when they are happily married, they are on permanent sojourn.  It's God's doing if their husbands live long enough to keep their company. Even so, after successfully rearing their own children, their position changes to that of a nanny, caring for their grand-children, and a house-help to their own children!  They move from one child's house to another in a ceaseless circle of life-long catering.  If the places where they sojourn are rosy, they partake of the joy.  But if they boil, they boil along or are boiled in cognito.
          If their husbands die, even when they were as old as the Biblical Methuselah, autopsy reports would trace it to them as the killers of their husbands.  If the women are young, they are easily appropriated like chattel as a remnant of the dead man's properties to be shared.  These considerations are the basis of my passion for women.  They are at the receiving end, and they are to be pitied.
          It formed the basis of my early attachment to and sympathy for my own mother, and I thank God that He used me to wash away all her sorrows - at least for the last twenty-five years of her life.  She died a happy woman and I survived her a happy child!  That is why I am passionate in my prayers that, God willing, my wife should not taste of the bitter pills women swallow.  It is why I have resolved to be unconditionally compassionate to virtuous and genuinely struggling women (young or old) wherever we meet -  without any strings or conditions whatsoever attached.  Women deserve good treatment.

The Strugglers

          I regard this category of people as those destined to win but are faced with all sorts of odds in this world.  Male or female, their common denominator is their undying vision and their unquenchable spirit to stay the course of the necessary struggle until they arrive at their goals.
          They are willful, and do not believe anything is impossible.  They may be in a quandary for a long time finding a solution but they never give up.  And when the opportunity comes, they grasp it with both hands, use it judiciously and come up at the end with positive results for their labours.  They believe in hard work, which they display in all situations in order to feed themselves by the works of their hands.  They are selfless, too, even in their dire situation because they look forward with hope for a better tomorrow - in which time and elevation they are prepared to help others out of their misery.  They are invariably close to God who always shows them mercy. 
          Above all, they understand the true concept and meaning of assistance or 'help' and would not demean it by converting it into an art of 'dependency' like people I call “The Milkers”.   (I shall talk about this group presently). Left to them, they would not bother people but the necessity for self-actualisation impels them to do so.  Whenever they receive help, they show genuine appreciation and do not see themselves as the clever manipulators of their seemingly foolish helpers. The female amongst them do not see such assistance as an opportunity to seduce their helpers, whilst the male are forever grateful to their benefactors - whenever or whatever they may be or have become.   They employ their personal means fully until it is exhausted before they would think of or entertain any thoughts for outside assistance. 
          And when they secure the assistance, they do not exploit it for ulterior or selfish gain or profit.  They respond to others in like manner, and whatever they receive they spend on the sole purpose for which it was requested.  These are some of the people I am passionate about.  They are highly ambitious.  It radiates from them, whether they be permanent, temporary staff, apprentices or Youth Corpers, even Industrial Attachees: they have a common propensity to achieve and a fiery determination to make it happen.
          Whenever I see them, I court them, and reason with them as we jointly identify their problems and I contribute my widow's mite in genuine cases.  My assistance is unconditional. In most cases, I am able to introduce the beneficiaries to my home where, I believe,  they would elicit more favours and ultimate understanding from my family.
          Thank God, my good wife who shares my vision in this regard, integrates them into our family and sometimes the outreach also envelopes their families.  We have maintained this tradition even in the face of some scandalous detractors who have tried to exploit the situation to disrupt the harmony of our family. It is part of the risk in the war against poverty.  I accept the pain joyfully since it will produce rich and better people in our society.  It is for their sake and the sake of women and children in particular that I write this book to encourage them.
          My prayer is that God  will remain our guide to support others to the best of our abilities and that He would not allow the gates of our enemies to prevail against our stand.

The Indolent

          There is yet another group that I hardly talk about, who live in our families; they are present in our offices, in our churches and wherever we find ourselves.  Some of them are our neighbours, and, unfortunately, many more are our own biological children from whom we cannot run away!  They are in all age categories,  even much older than us. These are the lazy people - the drones, the indolent ones!  They want to milk you to death. They invariably twist your offer of assistance to ensnare you into a vicious circle of exploitation  to suck you dry!  And the end-result is to create problems for others, unrepentantly.  They would rather indulge in pleasure than dare the side of life where they would experience pain.  They criticize and are uncomfortable with any suggestion that one or they must work with their own hands to feed themselves and bless others.  There is no moderation in their dictionary and their voices are loud and spiteful.  They peddle rumours and make written demands always beyond your overall budget.  When they visit you, they can only tell tall tales that signify nothing but a waste of time and boredom.  If, unfortunately, you fall prey and are milked dry, they leave you, unconscionably without a backward glance for the next victim. The trajectory of their lives is an irredeemable disaster!
          To this category of people, I owe ONLY one thing  that I call general love, the type of love that God has for all His creation - human beings, fauna and plants alike.  He showers His rains, His sunshine, His fresh air, His talents, His mercy, His grace and so on upon all regardlessly, but these are only means to some ends.  They do not necessarily solve all our problems but He owes no one any apologies for that.  If you want something extra or beyond those, then work for it.  Otherwise, make do with that which you are given. So, what do I feel for the sluggard?  Everything within the limit of general love but I will not consider whether my offering meets his needs or not. 

 Nigeria and The World At Large

          I have already said so much about Nigeria in this book.  I x-rayed what I thought were the ills and the inadequacies of our leadership and touched on my vision not only for her general well-being but by extension for the larger world.   The way forward is therefore simple and not far-fetched.  What I have discovered were things that happened to me, not hearsay.   Unpleasant experiences produce history and struggling, and history, properly analysed and harnessed, produces positive changes for the better.  So my own experiences are a good basis and guide for the creation of good visions that will elevate the lot of Nigerians and the world at large.  That's a great legacy.
          My current contemplations are many.  I can choose the pulpit on a ful-time basis to radically preach the Word of God to transform lives for the better; or write books on how to achieve the necessities of a successful life.  I could create a website by which to reach out to countless people around the globe and pour out life-transforming information therein to them or join the handwaggon of those dedicated to praying ceaselessly for Nigeria.  I could also create a trust fund to provide for the training of people for impactful vocations. All these I have brainstormed upon.  I have also contemplated the possibility of venturing into politics but have seen that in the way it is currently played in Nigeria, it is dangerous for people like me.  The electoral process is fraught with bobby traps  without transparency, and the growth of a genuine, democratic culture that will advance the harmony of heterogeneous Nigeria is being denied, suppressed and killed. 
          To me, politics, politics in such a stage is not synonymous with service to others' but like a professional career practice meant solely for selfish and heartless acquisitions!  How does one operate in an atmosphere where the elected are a bunch of puppets, bought and shackled under the constantly manipulating,  proverbial monsters called political godfathers.  There is no room therefore for the independent-minded, like me.  And yet, politics remains the only direct and surest public avenue for the rapid redressing of chronic social ills and inequities!
          We therefore look to God for guidance as Nigeria battles against mighty corruption for her very survival. 
          If the battle is won to the extent that those who would hold political offices are prepared to be the servants of the people (which might not be impossible during my life-time), I might do a re-think and join the political bandwagon!
          I have therefore resolved to continue to watch the turn of events as they unfold (especially considering the current bold battle against corruption in the country) while exploring alternative schemes to fulfill my aims.  If the battle is won to the extent that those who would hold poiltical office are prepared to be the servants of the people (which might not be impossible during my life-time), I might do a re-think and join the political bandwagon!
          For now, however, I have concentrated on a combination of what Robert G. Allen, in his book “Multiple Streams of Income”, calls Inforpreneuring, network marketing and internet fortunes, as well as the exhortations of the pulpit to advance my goal of helping people to acquire the necessary knowledge to eradicate poverty from their lives.
          I have already identified writing books as another avenue to achieve this, and I plan henceforth, God willing, to release books to the market as often as possible.
          I will also do whatever I can within the shortest possible time, to properly populate my website (www.joent-ng-com), not only with the electronic versions of my books but also conduct interactive sessions in the same web by which people, generally, would key into their own visions.



Chapter 58

In The
People's Court

One criticism that has always greeted auto-biographies is the fact that they are self-exalting.  Because I am normally self-effacing, if there had been a way to say I achieved this or that, without a tinge of self praise, I would have adopted that approach.  If there's anything like praise-singing in this book, then it is to God Almighty, and the good people He sent my way whom my achievements in life are centred around,  certainly not me.   I am only favoured by Him!
In that understanding therefore, I would advise my readers to ignore the urge to criticize my tendencies or seeming hyperboles and simply use my related experiences to moderate their own lives for good.  They should see how I identified with and received the help of God, surmounted one obstacle after the other, and the successes that resulted from the struggles.  That track is where the benefits lie.   
But in the course of writing this book I had this inspiration to allow a few people who knew me closely enough to make some input.  I particularly appealed to them not to ignore my weaknesses dwell too much on my strengths (if any).    Understandably, I gave room first to my closest ally, my wife; then my children (biological or otherwise).  I contacted one of my 'children' who worked with me sometime in the 1990's.  As may have been observed at the beginning of this book, one of my greatest benefactors, Mrs Ogun, contributed the second foreward to the book after Bisi Ojediran's.
From what follows, my readers will agree that this book has been actually co-authored by many people (whom I appreciate for their frankness): 
         
How I See My Husband 

          Before the arrival of Yemi into my life, my simple prayer of faith had been: “Lord, when I am ripe for marriage, please provide for me, a godly man who will care for me; who will not beat me or maltreat me in any way”.  This prayer-point emanated from the fact that I was not pleased with the ways some of our tenants'  maltreated their wives and by extension, their children.  I didn't want to experience such at all.
          Yemi caught me really young at about the age of 14 years.  Then I was in JSS3 or so.  For the seven years that we courted, and till I got married to him at the age of 21years, I did not really understand the full implications of marriage.  My limited understanding of marriage was that it is a relationship where both parties have to assert their rights.  Indeed I felt my work-life was more important than marriage because of the belief I had inculcated that once I had the money, a husband was secondary. My father emphasized to me the need for a woman to be as hard working as a man so that she will be able to fend for herself unassisted. 
          Though caring, I was somehow temperamental.  I was on the very cautious side and did not want my seemingly caring disposition to be mistaken or interpreted to mean stupidity.  Even when I had occasions to correct my children and those whom we are privileged to sojourn together under the same roof, I did it so harshly that my intent could have been misconstrued as being that of a difficult woman.  It is not so.  I am only very concerned about 'caution'.
          I wanted everything done the way it should be done; that is, the way I wanted it - no half-measures!  I encouraged people, especially children and the youths, to take initiatives, for by doing that, they would attain maturity themselves.  Whenever I noticed any unacceptable trait in any child, I drive such child hard. In fact one of my children had so much of this, but I am happy he realized that it was not out of hatred!
          I never felt comfortable with anybody outside my immediate and (sometimes) extended family members then. This attitude had been informed by Bible passages, such as  “The heart of man is desperately wicked”, “Woe unto any man who puts his faith on human beings”.  I was also so disposed because of the act of wickedness perpetrated by some characters in the Bible as well as those reported in the media.   Newspapers are full of them on a daily basis!  For this reason, I became very cautious about cultivating friends (especially female friends), the majority of whom I believed would use such closeness to give one wrong counsel that could ruin one's home.  My attitude towards the girl-child generally is that she is more difficult to raise than boys; so I preferred to have boys instead. My prayer had been that if God decides to give me both sexes, fine, but I would prefer to have more boys than girls! 
As if I was perfect myself or perhaps because of what I had imbibed from my Muslim background, I believed in the idea of  “let anybody who commits any sin, receive the maximum punishment for his or her sin”!  From this attitude Yemi developed an acronym, “TFT” (meaning Tit-for-Tat”), with which he teased me whenever I exhibited that trait. He even jokingly turned “TFT” to be a proverbial Church, of which I was the proverbial Pastor-Founder! 
          According to him he belongs to the “Freedom Church”, where there is no sin too big to be forgiven and where he, the Pastor-Founder  himself, only depends upon God's grace to attain everything (including making heaven).
          That's one of the wonderful ways he brought me around to reasonableness without hurting me.
          Indeed, as soon as our relationship started, my husband, Yemi, started to work relentlessly on me, using the word of God to disabuse my mind of misconceptions.   This he did alongside the teachings he gave me in my academic pursuits.   He took out quality time patiently to tutor me on the nature and expectations of God and man, and the need to adjust my attitude to suit the will of God for man, and reach out to people generally.   
          According to him, despite the Biblical passages and the myriad sad reports seeming to give credence to the wickedness of man, if treated well, man is generally good.  He reasons that due to broken backgrounds, possibly arising from unfriendly social environments in which they grew up, some people become wicked.  However, he sees their wickedness as an exception to the general rule by which God created man good, which makes man truly good. 
          He believes that all human beings need God as well as themselves to make some headway in life but to achieve that, one only needs to live  right with God and network with good people. 
          He also believes that rather than wait to be treated well first by others, everybody should pioneer first the act of doing so to others! I testify that he takes the lead in this area.  Wherever he goes, he creates a home for himself. 
          He points out that wicked as man may seem, he appreciates good gestures and is willing to reciprocate them if extended to him.  He believes that relationship with people should NOT be based on expectations and rewards. Rather it should be based on true and unconditional love as Jesus Christ demonstrated through his own life.  He has this philosophy of 'friendship for life', which, to him, is best for everybody. 
          Concomitant with his philosophy of life, whenever he notices the traits of inconsistency in any friend, he does not quarrel over the development but gradually withdraws his deep attachment to him or her, while maintaining the relationship and, surprisingly, puts the the person in his prayers for God to restore him or her with His grace.
          On polygamy into which we were both born, he believes that its problem is not in the number of women or the children that constitute or comprise it.  Rather its inherent turbulence arises from the fact that the women in it do not particularly love themselves.  Naturally, they transfer their attendant bitterness to their children.  His dispassionate role in his own polygamous homes, where he ensures that everybody is treated with unconditional love without discrimination - a practice he extended to my own family after our marriage, has taught me a lesson to live above sentiments in our dealings with all human beings, especially in a polygamous culture as in Africa.  I am indeed surprised at his high commitment to his family, nuclear or extended.  He drums it into us that God who created us into polygamous backgrounds deposited blessings therein for our benefit.  Therefore, those who revolt in the circumstance or environment reject their ordained messianic roles in them!
           Genuine love is the need for everyone to practise it wherever one finds oneself.  That is his greatest gospel. Relying on the relevant provisions of the Bible, he teaches it to us in the family, day and night, and practically demonstrates it in everything he does - sometimes at the risk of everything he has! 
          Because he is trustworthy, the disposition attracts people to him from all spheres of life. He is, clearly, a crowd puller who enjoys the recognition (whenever he is not in isolation writing his books or carrying out his numerous researches), solving everyone's problems to the best of his means.  He regards all his interactions with people in all spheres of human engagement no matter their ages as family, whom he treats equally.  I was initially disturbed by this all-inclusive existence (for I considered him too plain for the Nigerian environment) but eventually accepted the situation as his natural inclination. He once told me:  “I would most likely die early if I am not allowed to relate freely with people!”
          He hates cheating and admonishes that “we can be rich without stealing”.   He believes that people should endeavour to keep proper records of their properties so as to be able to explain themselves whenever the situation arises.
          While he may be regarded as a core giver, he makes the distinction between a “Father Christmas” and a “purposeful” welfarer.  Apart from his generosity due to “general love for people”, he likes to be convinced of the productive use to which his giving is put before committing himself.
          If you offend him, rather than keep malice, he believes he could call you and tell you exactly where you went wrong and continue to relate with you as if there had been no ripple!
          He has an especial soft spot for women and children whom he sees as vulnerable victims in our society.  He therefore encourages me to own properties as much as I can and supports me in doing so.
          Another unique quality of Yemi is his ability to tame people no matter how difficult they may be.  So he can cope with all manner of men, women and children.  He simply operates at their levels and thereby registering himself in their hearts in no time at all!  I am not gifted with such patience!
          He's delighted when people visit but upset if they are ill-treated or mistreated.  Until amends are made, he will continue to worry!         So to avoid embarrassment, you must treat visitors correctly and his definition of proper treatment is 'total comfort'!
          Yemi has some weaknesses like everyone else.  For instance, when he decides to talk, he does so ceaselessly but when he chooses to keep quiet, he's withdrawn, dumb and irritating! 
He's a restless fellow too.  I have had to appeal to him to have days when he rests and eats properly.  Each time we served his food, we are very cautious about the size.  If, in trying to please him and make him eat well, the food exceeds a certain measure, he would not eat the food. He would simply complain that we have succeeded in spoiling his appetite!  If the salt is not enough or a little bit more than necessary, he might not eat food!  The position of our bed shifts according to his mood and the whole house is re-organised endlessly! He pays serious attention to details.
          On the spiritual side, I see him as deep-rooted in the word of God, yet he claims as far as the understanding of the Bible is concerned 'I am a novice'.  I think the Bible is his sustenance and driving force. 
He manages to harmonise his love for me with his obsession for (and addiction to) his electronic gadgets (computers of all shades, sophisticated handsets, desktops, palm-tops, etc), which he treasures so much and with which he acomplishes feats.  He is very sensitive about these gadgets and his books! Above all, he loves taking what I call 'positive risks'! 
His ability to effectively manage crises was fully demonstrated through the way he prayerfully and coolheadedly managed the change of name sometimes in the early 1990's apparently without hurting anybody, even in the face of provocation! 
          I must confess that Yemi is the one who actually opened me up to several facets of life (how to relate with extended families, children, neighbours,etc) and still continues to expand my understanding even as I write. 
Whatever successes I may have recorded in my marriage and in some other areas of life, I achieved them because he has good visions for his home.  I identify with those visions, as he has done with mine.  No doubt Yemi is an asset to all.
-  Mary


Our Father, As We Know Him
          My dad is a man, a real man if you know what I mean.  He is made in the image of God indeed and I really thank God for him as I observe his many virtues , apart from his discipline, maturity and fatherly love.  He leads us by example and, as his son, I know that his example is a great challenge for me now and in the future. 
          I don't think I have found a better example of a true father, a loving husband, and a family-oriented man than him.  He makes his mistakes sometimes, but admits his flaws too.  However, such natural shortcomings haven't diminished his being loving.  He has truly laid a great example of self-development for us all.  Whatever he has done in the family, he has always carried my mother particularly along.  Any decision he has taken concerning the home or whatever he tells us about anything, he always concludes with “Your mother and I have discussed and this is our conclusion…” .  
Another delight for the family is that he speaks our local dialect fluently with our mum and we are able to share because the rest of us have been taught well in the use of language.  I thank God for making him my mother's loving husband who has cared for us the way only a good father could have done.

- Olumide





I cant' really write all I know about this man called Yemi Omogboyega than to say he is a worthy father.  He emerged from a poor home.  He never allowed poverty to rule his life.  He had his setbacks.  He was determined to attain greater heights academically, economically and spiritually.
He emerged from a poor home. He never allowed poverty to rule his life. He had his setbacks. He was determined to attain greater heights academically, economically and spiritually. I do not know much about his past, except what I read from the first edition of his book, “Better Tomorrow” published when I was 5 years old (which I got hold of). He is a man who could be confided in.
          The bottom line of his success in life is the Bible, which is one and the most important thing he used in guiding and bringing us up. Though he is the head of the family, decisions in the family are taken collectively through dialogue and mutual agreement.
          He's a man who has time for his family despite his workload. He devotes time for his children and his family. He corrects lovingly when it is needed and frowns seriously at laziness and whoever jeopardizes his education and spirituality. Though I personally was a “bone in his neck”, he made me 'flesh' through God's word and his persistence, now.   Now I testify to his capability of being a good father. When I speak to my friends and learn about their own backgrounds, I have reason to always thank God for the kind of man he made my father!
          The times I don't like to see him is when he is angry because he sets fear in the mind of the culprit, even if the culprit wants to confess. He lays so much emphasis on the offence that the culprit is forced to keep quiet till he calms down.  But I think he still empathises.  His positive influence in our entire families is overwhelming. Though man cannot be satisfied, he tries his best economically, academically, and spiritually. 
          As I said earlier, I can only write on him limitedly because God knows him best. His attitude isn't new to me because it had been revealed to me in a dream when I was less than two years old that the family I was in was the best I could ever be and it later turned out to be so ever since. 
          I pray that Dad lives long enough to be able to impart this legacy on many, and we should be able to do as he did, in Jesus name.  If God would be that faithful, I pray that God gives me the grace to be able to truly appreciate him during his lifetime.

”  - Muyiwa





          “For the first 15 years of my life, which I have spent with my father, I have learnt a lot from him, and he  has had a lot of positive impact on my life in that time.
           First and foremost, my father is loving, caring, kind and tender-hearted .  He has exhibited these qualities not only to his biological children but also to his aged parents, other members of the larger family as a whole and to  people around him in general.
          His first act of love, has been to send us, all his children to good schools for proper education, and he has taken time to assess our performance at school almost every day.  He reminds us constantly that examiners who set our question papers are human beings and that such questions have correct answers, which can be arrived at diligently without resorting to cheating. He has always assured us of his assistance to enable us do well in the examinations but he would never subscribe to or tolerate cheating, nor beg or  bribe his  way for us to secure admission to any  higher institutions!
          Just as he encourages us, so also he doles out discipline to us on the other hand as he advises us on very many issues of life.  He demonstrates this evenhandedness also to his extended families - every member he attends to whenever the need arises.  Indeed he actively cultivates the harmony that exists between the families.
          Secondly, even if I am the one saying so, my father is a God-fearing person, a disposition, he told us, that generated from the early religious teaching his mother gave to him  which wisdom he, in turn, was obliged to pass on to us for our benefit.
          He makes sure that everyone in his household puts God first in everything and that they participate in the things of God in the church. 
          My first reality of my father's determination and visionis the fear of God in him which enables him not to get angry easily and, even in such a state, he would never abuse or curse anybody because such attitude is against the will of God.  Another thing I have learned from my father is that he tries to keep the right relationship with everyone including neighbours.
          He is a prolific writer as his numerous fast-moving books, which  touch the lives of people, attest to this fact. 
           Lastly, one of the most lovely aspects of my father is his focus on a vision-driven life.  The oral history of his life that makes the round in family circles is that from his youth, my father has relentlessly tried to curb poverty in the family.  Even as I write, we the children (biological or otherwise) have constituted ourselves into a “ Poverty Eradication Committee”.  This Committee was headed by my Uncle and name sake, Olasunkanmi Kolawole.  Encouragingly, Dad has assigned us a theoretical project to debate extensively on poverty, its causes and how to alleviate it (!) which would be subject to his periodic review.    
          The reason for doing this engagement, according to Dad, is for us to be aware, early in our lives, of the many tentacles and ramifications of poverty and learn how, not only to conquer it but plug, forever, all the holes of its possible recurrence in the family!    His children's early sustainability was his shocking declaration when I was about ten years old that, all things being equal, we (his biological or non-biological children) would quit his house by the time we were 25 years old to be on our own!  At that time, I had challenged him that he couldn't have been serious with his statement but he had dared me to disregard the warning.  The effect was that I was triggered to study hard so that I could pass all my exams before the expiration of his ultimatum and secure good employment so I can be on my own!
He has been a wonderful father.”

- Sunkanmi  


“My father is a man who takes his time to give us moral lessons.
He buys quality materials for me.  He cares for me and he makes sure nobody beats me when I do something wrong because he believes that you don't need to beat a child before he changes for the better.  He believes that it is better to talk to the child than to beat him for every mistake he makes.
.         He is a man who has a vision and plans for all his children.  He is a simple man.  He does not allow wastage in his house. For instance he is always annoyed when we waste food.  He pays our school fees on time and buys us all our books.  He checks our class work everyday and tells us not to cheat in our examinations. He says we can pass our examinations if we read hard and that he wants us to be the best and that  is why he buys all our books for us, give us light to read and sit with us to discuss everything with us.  He prays for us all the time.
          One day he told us we must leave  his house at the age of 25 years!  I didn't like that but he has since explained it to me and I now understand his reason  so that we will not be lazy!  I am now working to be on my own before that age and God will help me.
          He is the best teacher that has ever taught me in the teens class in our Church.  My father loves his wife.  I like to be like him when I grow up.”

- Olatunbosun



He Moulded My Life!

          I lived with him at a crucial period in my life - a period when I needed to be given a purposeful direction - immediately after completing my Secondary School Education. 
          The man, MR. JOHN OMOGBOYEGA, is an icon of wisdom, which I believe is supernaturally endowed upon him by God Almighty. Knowing him is like discovering an oil well, which brings about general turn around and life changing circumstance, whenever you believe in his principle of life generally. He is a man who believes that it is not when you are born with silver spoon that your name can be among the Hallmark of fame; rather, he believes that a man can work out his own destiny with God supporting him.
          One of his philosophies is that the one legacy a man can leave for his children is EDUCATION. According to him, it is only God, education and hard-work that can break the backbone of poverty and social intimidation.  He taught us thoroughly on how to free ourselves from the shackles of poverty and ignorance.
          His book, “BETTER TOMORROW” (the 1992 edition which I was priviledged to read when I lived with him) revealed to me that only the fools do not believe about tomorrow because, each day lived, keeps the future in suspense, hence the journey to tomorrow. This book is a Fountain of Life.  It charted a good course for my life.  I was doubly blessed because I witnessed him live what he preached, and he personally taught me day and night the fear of God, hard work, and appreciation of people.  Today, his personality is registered in my person!

-Kazeem Ojo Olanipekun





He Has The Right Answer to Every Question!

          I am Mrs Adebimpe Aruna (nee Adewole). I met Mr.Omogboyega in January, 1999, when  I was introduced to him by my Uncle, Mr. Joseph Oluokun, his friend.  Then I was on  National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) and had to serve in his office.  He was my Team Leader but soon my relationship with him graduated to that between a father and his daughter He integrated me, embracing my brother Michael who graduated at the same time with me from the University of Jos, my parents and my entire family.   He called me  “daughter” and treated me truly as one. So his home became our home.
          Mr. Omogboyega has become my mentor and my role model too. I learnt so much from him during my service year.  He weaned me into integrity management and administrative skills that have become invaluable to me wherever I work.  It is a hallmark of his inductive grooming that determination and persistency in whatever one does guarantees success in life. He used to tell me that whatever the disadvantages of one's background, it should not be allowed to foreclose one's success in life.  He said that what mattered was belief in one's capacity to make it in life through hard work and a strong will, such that even the sky is one's beginning!  He seemed to have answers to most concerns, from the spiritual to the secular!    
          However, he has a 'weakness', if you will call it that!  He does not tolerate laziness or the flighty female preoccupied with relationship with the opposite sex during the work period!
          He was very patient with me, and corrected errors with compassion and a detailed explanation of how they occur and how to avoid their recurrence.  He cherishes humility a lot.  His general attitude at work as a leader was like 'he was actually handing over' his office as a legacy to the younger generation, so that as you grew in your responsibilities, he gave you more room to bring out the best in you.
          At home, he has remained a loving father and husband too, who pursues his children's education while carrying his wife along in all he does.  One thing he always says about his wife is: “my wife is my best partner!”.  Another unique circumstance of his life is that his house was always full of people.  I was not surprised at this though, because his nature was such that many people like to associate with him. 
          Finally, the manifestation of the divine grace upon his life which enables him to virtually work round the clock, always armed with the latest information technology!  As he has been to me, Mr. Omogboyega is a mentor and role model for the youth.










Chapter 59

I am Grateful!

To God

It is good to be with you O' Lord,
It is good to praise you always
For you are the Merciful God of All

O Lord, I will ever praise you
For your unqualified mercies
Showered upon me
And for the inestimable love
You bestow upon me always
You have focused on my very self
Your handiwork, Your image
And given me priceless wisdom
And the vision
With which you freely endowed me

When I reflect
Upon those moments of distress
seeming hopelessness in my
life as a lone struggler,
And how you brought me forth
I will ever praise you
For your undaunting support
And protection


Like David,
I told you my plans
And You acted swiftly
I thank you for my past
For my present
And in advance, for my future.

You called Abraham “Father of Faith”
You called Moses “Apple of My Eyes”
You called Jesus “My Beloved Son”
You called Yemi  “My Favoured Child”
I thought I was nothing
But You called me Somebody
I may have a zero-balanced Bank Account
I own everything I own on credit basis
I am grateful for even making me credit worthy in the first place
I am grateful for though I borrow today,
I will soon be a net lender to nations!

I am rich in Your Glory
Your Peace in me is like a flowing River
 Source source keeps on supplying freshness to my existence
You make my life meaningful
You brought me for some purposes
To care for people is one of them
It all started with my parents
You make me an asset to them
Even the one that is dead died happy!
The ones still alive
Continue to see Your hands in their lives
You gave me the key to 'hold on' to their lives
Not until I ask them to go,
You never call them to You!
You did say concerning me:
“Whoever Touches or Cheats you will receive my vengance!”
And I have seen it happen on several occasions!
You bless all the works of my hands!
Above all, You gave me the greatest commodity to market -
“Your Word”
You followed it with uncontrollable positive inspirations
That produce many books all at the same time
You give me a multi-purpose woman to marry
(Sometimes a wife, all the time a mother, a friend, a sister, a daughter, an associate,
a critique, a girlfriend, an auntie … too many angles to capture in a book)
You radiate beauty in her such that her face brightens my day!
You give me children who are zealous for You
Your Ministers from their mother's Womb!
That is a major source of joy to me!
You surround me with many more spirit-filled children

Polygamous house is death to many
Inside it you planted me
You make it a place of unparalleled joy for me
You make my brothers and sisters truly friends
So, our mothers were mere vessels
But our unity and love know no boundary!

You Banished poverty from our lineage
Currently we are in a 'comfort zone'
Whereas You are taking us all to 'a flourishing zone'!
Thank you in advance for we know we are there already!

I worship You, I adore You, My Lord, My God, My creator,
My provider, Awimayehun, Asoro matase, Oyigiyigi, Oba to ju Oba lo
Kaa bi yesi Re ooo! Olodumare!

To All My Friends Indeed

This is my special "Thank YOU"
To you all who
Today I can remember for good
For the appreciable contributions
Morally, socially and economical,
For making my dreams
Of a BETTER TOMORROW
A reality

For the struggling lots,
At this stage of my life,
I now believe firmly
That nothing succeeds like success
And success can be attained
Only through faith in God
Friendliness to humanity
And hard work
With strong determination to succeed
For there is no crown
Without a cross

To My Friends in Dismay

I have often heard  a people say
"These enemies of mine
Will not allow me progress
Every step I take, they frustrate"

I assure you enemies there may be
Because you think you have some
Otherwise, those you refer to as such
Dictate the pace
Of your Progress in life
In the Holy Bible,
They did it to Joseph
Also to Job

But rather than fail,
These men triumphed
They realised God's plan
For their lives.

They did it to Jesus Christ
But God be praised!
Jesus accomplished his goal
To "finish" the work of our salvation!

Today, it may be you
And then me
God watches them
So that we may accomplish
His plans for us
And His glory will shine upon us
If only we have faith in Him


Aren't these "enemies"
Your greatest friends
Who, simply put, appear like foes
And to whom you should remain grateful?
As for me, I say a big 'Thank You' to them.




Chapter 60

I Am Fulfilled!

With this book successfully completed, published
And released to the entire world,
I feel a sense of a great achievement
It is a great milestone achieved in my voyage through this world
I feel truly joyous, I feel great.
That I am going to positively touch people's lives
All over the universe
I am convinced that the spirit of the Lord 
Will open my readers' hearts and minds
 To the truth about life
And by granting them understanding
That will free them all
From the shackles of life
If only this happens with this book
Then I have left a mark
In the sands of time
I am fulfilled!



THE END


“Readers of this book are bound to form opinions and attitudes about this central episode, but the larger point that is clearly established is Omogboyega’s Socratesian realization that “man must know himself.” 
- Reuben Abati







THIS THING
CALLED MARRIAGE

You have only one life to live, Don’t court a failed marriage in your existence. How do you court right?  Below are the highlights of some issues discussed extensively in the this book:
·        The right age to marry
·        Views on Issues of Life
·        Virginity
·        Marrying from A Broken Home
·        Marrying from A Polygamous Home
·        Marrying a Widow or a Widower
·        Marrying A Married Man or Woman
·        Beliefs (not religion)
·        Faith and The “Leading of The Spirit”
·        The True Nature of Individuals
·        Professional Calling
·        Family Planning (Or Family Size)
·        Extended Families
·        Sexual Satisfaction
·        Sexual Appetite
·        Education
·        Religion
·        Inter-Tribal or Inter-Racial Marriage
·        Age Disparity
·        Young Girls Marrying Old Men
·        Maintaining a Joint Account
·        Marrying A Divorcee
·        Physical Beauty
·        Character Beauty
·        Wealth
·        Medical issues
·        -   genotype
·        HIV status
·        Infertility
·                                Some hereditary diseases to be  avoided
·                                Need for parental consent







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This book makes concise and  categorical statements on such serious issues as marriage, leadership, management, religion, conflicts, music, the changing world, poverty, examination malpractice, the fragile nature of the girl-child lesbianism, homosexuality, as well as  polygamy, etc

It is aimed at sensitizing and focusing readers on the fact that what they think is what they become.

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The marriage institution is certainly not for the lazy!  To make it easier, every aspect of life can be reduced to figures. 

In that pursuit, Yemi Omogboyega has opened a new chapter on marital issues. 

In the above book, he postulates one of those magic figures when he discusses the uses of budgeting as a key tool to foster better understanding or relationship between married couples.

He argues that budgeting will eliminate wasteful spending, open up partners to themselves, create avenue for investment, remove suspicion and improve relationship generally.

This book is indeed a cornerstone for family peace.


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You Can’t Do Without
“BETTER TOMORROW”!

If your vision is for a better tomorrow
Then nothing must stop you from getting there
Whatever you are facing now is temporary
The author of “Better Tomorrow’ proves that in the book.

Your biological fatherhood or motherhood does not determine what you become in life.
No child is illegitimate for everyone has a traceable father.  Indeed ever child is a child of God.
The Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria has abolished ‘illegitimacy;
However, as soon as you discover your biological origin, don’t waste your time to consolidate the relationship by bearing his name.  Forgive your Dad or Mum who neglected you.  “I lost my biological origin, but at 36 years of age, I recovered it and changed my name” says the author of Better Tomorrow”

Forgive your Uncle, Auntie, Cousins, Guardian, who failed to train you.  Take your destiny in your own hands make yourself who or what God wants you to be – a great person!  If it is not the will of God that they will do so, they will labour in vain. If at all they do it, they will claim glory for themselves later and that will hurt you.  But those that God might have sent to lift you up will do so without strings attached to it and will give the glory to God for using them.

“I had people who could and were willing to train me to the University but they were (mysteriously) not permitted to do so – by the special grace of God and with the help of non-blood relatives, good employers, etc,  I had to train  myself from primary six until I become a become a qualified Lawyer, a certified Human Resource expert, an Author of many books, and more importantly, a committed child of God in His vineyard. 
You need to find out how I did it. 
My conviction is that if I can do it, you can do it also,” says the author of Better Tomorrow.

A girl’s most tempting period is between the ages of 12 and 18 years.  Then’s when she can make or unmake herself for life!  Find out how in “Better Tomorrow”

As young boys or bachelors, holding one’s body is a major problem.  “I was once in that position.   It looks stupid to see pretty girls and consciously avert one’s eyes from them?  How do you hold your body?  Find out from “Better Tomorrow”.

Wants to marry?  Where do you choose from?  That you choose a partner from the church does not necessarily translate to choosing right!  Not every girl in the church is your better half! What must you do (beyond praying)  to find the right partner?  Do you know that once your first marriage fails, your life is permanently and adversely altered?  Find out what you can do so as not to experience divorce in “Better Tomorrow”.

“On parenting issues, I am on my third decade of a successful marriage.  I am experienced enough to guide you on how to develop a vision for your home, bring up your children well to tackle the knotty issues of extended families: brother or sisters-in-law, mothers-in-law; and all the stakeholders to your marital relationship.  How did I manage all these people and what were the results?  Find out from !”Better Tomorrow”.

Is it worth it sending your children to boarding schools? 

Is religion a fiction and in the midst of the conflicting religions, how do you choose right?   Find out from “Better Tomorrow”.

With constant power failure, no pipeborne water, incessant school shutdowns, almost impossibility of gaining admission into higher institutions of learning, uncertain economic climate, inadequate accommodation, bad road networks, law enforcements (the police, customs officers, LASTMA, FERMA, KAI, etc), tax payment without commensurate benefits, examination malpractices,  and so on,  would you consider Nigeria as a friend or foe?.  How should parents and children treat themselves?  . Better Tomorrow answers all these questions?

  



My Life
Is In My Hands
There are seven stages of life. These are birth, education, career, marriage, retirement, death and history. How do you focus your attention on making the best out of these stages of your life?

There are four resources that God has given to us to resolve all the issues facing us in life.  They are God Himself, Time, Vision and talents?  How do we combine these to make our lives successful?

There are uncountable number of destiny busters working relentlessly to stop us from reaching our destinies. They distract us, from facing the reality.  The make us to fail in life.  What are these destiny busters and how do you tackle them?  29 of them were exhaustively treated in the book “My Life is In My Hands”

Your parents may love you so much to the point of negatively changing your destiny!  Find out how in “My Life is In My Hands”

Through your wrong beliefs, you can be your own greatest enemy! “My Life Is In My Hands” tackles this question. 








People who don't read books tend to find life boring, dull and their lives are static. So cultivate a reading habit! Yemi Omogboyega