Better Tomorrow Chapt. 6 Don't Allow Polygamy To Ruin Your Life!

It is chiefly through books that we enjoy intercourse with superior minds. In the best boks, great men talk to us, give us their most precious thoughts, an dpour their souls into ours. God be thankd for boks. They are the voices of the distant and the dead, and make us heirs of the spiritual life or past ages. Books are true levelers,. They give to all who will faithfully use them, the society, the spiritual presence, of the best and greatest of our race. - William Ellery Channing. Quoted from Ben Carson's "Think Big" p. 13

Chapter 6

My Paternal Sibblings

Polygamy is not an Issue

"Because of our concern for our corporate family development, we frown at laziness and discourage it in our midst so that we can work hard to attain progress. While we accept that we are at different levels of development and endowment, we believe that all of us can reach the top by the special grace of God."

I am not advocating polygamy in this account. No. But when people talk frighteningly about the myriad evils of polygamy, I sometimes wonder whether polygamy is actually the problem or the absence of love in people's lives.

My father has had three women in his life. They jointly bore him, altogether, seven surviving children, namely: Florence, Comfort, Yemi (myself), Dunni, Desola, Remi, Ayo and Bose.

By the grace of God, the eight of us are not only very united but, like it is in Britain, we have an unwritten constitution or a code of conduct guiding our dealings with our parents and among ourselves.

First, we have a common vision of how to run our homes to ensure peace, organize our lives and do the best we can for the comfort of our parents. All of us, without exception, do just that according to our respective abilities. Our parents are happy for our collective happiness. Between us we share everything in common and trust ourselves. We have no room for jealousy, rivalry, envy and all such evil vices that destroy unwary families, polygamous or monogamous. We believe that the Lord who created and brought us together has a good purpose for each of us. We are not hankering after our father's farmlands but we are focused on being able to create our own wealth ourselves with our own hands!

If anyone of us makes a mistake, whoever first observes it lovingly corrects it as if it were his own error and we take it as a collective action. Each home is taken as a common domain. Even though we are born male and female, there is no sex discrimination in our dealings. We respect one another reciprocally.

We take practical interest in ensuring that our children interact and act together because they are our legacies of love, oneness, openness, kindness, godliness and all the virtues that distinguish the children of God. We are so generous to ourselves that nothing is small or too big to give to one another. In my daily wear, for instance, I always notice that there is a gift from one, two or more of us. Those who are yet to be strong financially demonstrate affection and they care. Such gifts are immeasurable and uncountable. We bless ourselves spiritually and materially without any form of public broadcasting. We thank God for all these.

We are particular that each and every one of us should be economically independent and we act in consonance with that belief. For this reason we strive to lift up those of us who are yet to record appreciable breakthrough in life.

We abhor gossip. Whatever we cannot say before all, we don't talk about at all. Whoever hears one would certainly tell others. Therefore, we believe in transparency to the core.

Because of our concern for our corporate family development, we frown at laziness and discourage it in our midst so that we can work hard to attain progress. While we accept that we are at different levels of development and endowment, we believe that all of us can reach the top by the special grace of God. We dine and wine freely together. These are the secrets of our unity, the strings that unite us, male and female.

On the social side, any invitation to a family member is an invitation to all. We attend to any such matter jointly as “THE OMOGBOYEGA FAMILY” and not in our individual names. That is how we prefer to run our family.

The presence of any of the three mothers whenever we visit home is sufficient for any of us as having met all the mothers. We feel safe and secured, and our parents cherish our lives and unity.

Is this to say that there are no disagreements at all? No! Our mothers in particular, occasionally disagree. Our father also does have misunderstandings with his wives but we, the children, isolate or distance ourselves from such disagreements. Our parents know we don't like such. So, as much as possible, they guard such disagreements jealously so that their occurrence would not leak to us. This is because they know we won't accept any justification or rationalization of their disagreements. We advised them to always examine their own consciences.

On the occasions they have failed to live up to expectation, we gather them together, do praise worship, offer prayers and read appropriate passages from the Holy Bible before taking them down memory lane while examining them on some fundamental questions.

One recurring observation we make to them is that if God has been kind to them as to protect their lives and make them happy, would they rather prefer to court unhappiness? They always chorus: “No.!”

We would proceed: “Is quarreling amongst yourselves the best way to appreciate God for His mercies?” Again, their answers are with an emphatic “No!”.

We would go further to ask: “Is quarreling amongst yourselves the best way to appreciate God for His goodness?” They say “No! ”

The next question would be: who amongst them had God not favoured? Their answer was always in the negative.

After such rigorous examination and cross-examination, we counsel them to eschew quarreling because it offends God. Finally we all kneel before God to ask for the forgiveness of their sins, which can provoke God to anger. We round off by praising and worshipping God once more and then dance. After that, we resort to the more important business like group prayers for all members of our family at home and abroad when we specifically pray for corporate anointing for the growth of our family, with a resounding chorus of “Amen!”. Such is how they are reconciled to God and to us.

Our aim is not to know who is right or wrong. As far as we are concerned, whoever the offender, they are collectively wrong! With this ritual method of cleansing, we discourage unnecessary quarrels and maintain peace in the homestead.

Ours is a polygamous home others should emulate for survival! And this is the foundation of my postulation that if only we cared to love ourselves, our homes, whether polygamous or monogamous and our life would be peaceful. Someone in the family has to start the emulation of the way of life we have postulated and it is never too late to do so. Nobody will die in the process of doing it!

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A Call To Charity

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